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to think my friend's friend was a bit underhanded?

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DetectivePotato · 29/06/2010 20:14

One of my best friends birthdays at the weekend. We are all going out for the day and my friend has invited loads of people who are good friends to her.

One of her friends (say friend A) always asks if she can bring a friend (say friend B) of hers to nights out etc. Friend B has always come along then the 2 (A & B) of them have spent the night whispering in the corner like 2 school girls. Apparently they are judging and talking about the rest of us. Neither of them talk to anyone else and its not that they are shy.

Friend A turned around to my friend and asked if friend B and her DH can come to this birthday day out, while friend B and the DH were there. None of us are that keen on friend B, including my friend and we can't work out why she comes out with us.

I think it is really underhanded the way it was done, asking in front of them as of course my friend isn't going to turn around and say "no they can't come" when they are stood right there. IMO (and my friend agrees) Friend A knew exactly what she was doing by putting my friend on the spot which I think is pretty underhanded. My friend said she likes friend A less when she is with this other woman just because of the way she behaves.

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vicbar · 29/06/2010 20:22

Yes she in underhanded and your friend needs to tell her probably best after the weekend that its not on and put her in a horrible position. If friend A knows you all why does she need friend B there anyway ?

vicbar · 29/06/2010 20:22

Sorry typos I blame the massive baby bump.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 29/06/2010 20:23

Perhaps stop inviting friend A? She doesn't even sound like a nice person!

Besom · 29/06/2010 20:26

She shouldn't have asked if the friend could come in front of her.

However, it's done now and if there are going to be lots of people there does it matter that much if they sit there whispering? Just let them get on with it while you get on with enjoying yourself.

letsblowthistacostand · 29/06/2010 20:30

OMG how old are you all? Who cares if they sit in the corner whispering? Ignore them, stop inviting A if you don't want to see B, and get over it.

TrillianAstra · 29/06/2010 20:30

Do you know that they are judging/talking about everyone else?

Sounds as if it's better to not invite either of them.

DetectivePotato · 29/06/2010 20:33

I'm not the one who invites them so I have no say.

I do know they are talking about us as friend A told my friend things they were saying about one of our friends (who is lovely) and my friend did pull her up on that. Friend A admitted that they discussed the rest of us too.

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