AIBU to think that repeating a nasty comment

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that someone else made about another person is as bad as saying it yourself.

Today, one of my friends (well, I thought she was my friend) thought that she would tell me of a nasty bitchy comment that someone made about my teeth.

Now, I'm willing to go with the majority of you here, but I'm thinking, there's no need to repeat nasty comments and that people who do so are just using that as an excuse to make the nasty comment themselves and be hurtful.

I mean, why else would someone do that?

I'd rather be told. I like to know who I'm dealing with.

YABU. If someone was talking behind my back then I'd want to know about it, so that I didn't mistakenly continue to think they were friendly. I'd hope that a friend would let me know. I wouldn't want them to keep something like that from me.

So you've never said anything about any of your friends to someone else?

No. I don't bitch about my friends to other people.

I bitch about people I don't like. A lot. [unrepentant]

And my mother.

But I don't slag off my mates. Why would I? why would anyone? They're your friends. If they've upset you - tell them. If they've done nothing but you want to laugh at them behind their back, or bitch about their top or something so petty and trivial, then you're (general you not specific you ) not actually their friend, are you?

YANBU. I have a 'friend' who kindly informed me that another 'friend' had been sending emails out asking people not to invite me on nights out (along with another woman so at least I am not alone in the outcast club ). Seeing as I didnt know they were going out in the first place I am not sure why I needed to know this information really. A true friend would have told the person sending the email to grow up and invite everyone.

If this happened again I think I would retort with the OPs line that repeating the comment is as bad as saying it your self.

This.

Why bump a thread that's 12 yrs old?

Yes - I've also got a few friends who are journalists/in the public eye in some way. Quite often "friends" will say "oh did you see this that someone said about you on Twitter" for example. Really odd (and mean) behaviour imho