AIBU to this it is outrageous to bring DDs back late because..

[looneymum]

of the soding football. Ex is supposed to bring them back at 5pm. Texted 1.30 to say he would be bring them back til around 8pm. DD2 is always a basket case if she doesn't get to bed at 7 on a Sunday. He is so irresponsible. Poor DD2 and 1 for that matter were woeful this morning.

I am so furious. He did not ask he just did what he wanted. He is always f**ing around with the contact arrangements. Bringing back early, late, changing pickup times, cancelling contact............AAAAARRRRRgggghhhhh. xxx

Erm....... this goes completely against the grain for me, as I hate, loathe and detest football and the ridiculous hype surrounding it. BUT, I'm afraid I think YAB a bit U as it probably qualifies as a special occasion. How many men would get up before the end of the match (or post-match inquest) and get in the car to take kids back? If you were at something important to you (wedding/party/whatever) wouldn't you stretch the Sunday bedtime rules for it?
I know you say it's always happening, but I'd let him off this one.

Sorry

the england game was over with by 5.30 though. no excuse really

Why couldn't he make the arrangement before 1.30? Just to add another little twist, he was meant to emigrate today but told me by e-mail on Sat that he isn't now going til xmas!! In my horror of horror scenarios I had him taking the children half way across the world without my knowledge.

Their welfare is paramount. They are always knackered after being with him and travelling for three hours in the car. He could perhaps have brought them back before the footie. They had no interest in the football but no. He just thinks about himself.

I would say YANBU but dh would probably say YABU as it's sport and it has to be watched.

Probably depends on how far away he lives from you? If 10 minutes away, he is definitely unreasonable but if he lives an hour and half away, maybe just about ok.

I can see why he wanted to watch the football and think that is absolutely fair enough - but I can't understand why there were back so late. Does he live a long distance away? - as ThreeB said, the match was over by 5.30 so delivering them back to you by say...6.30 wouldn't seem to be too much of a stretch?

OOH, looneymum, it's YOU! Hello again. I was following your previous threads about ex and emigrating. Nearly posted the other day to see how it was all going.
Right, so if it's HIM, then scrap my previous post. YAB totally reasonable to object after all the nonsense he's put you through.
(Although if it's any consolation, my DCs had to be shoe-horned out of bed this morning, which was nothing to do with football, car journeys or even late nights. Think we're all knackered and droopy with this hot weather).

Hiya Clam. Hope your keeping well. All still mad here. Have been to court three times with the final hearing last month. He was ORDERED by the judge to come and collect the DDs and to take time off work whilst they are in Aus.... can you believe he was thinking of having them on hols and then buggering off to work!!!!

It gets better though. He has lied to the judge about the date he was going (this is the 6th date he given). I had tried to prepare the kids this weekend as this was the last time they were going to see him for a year as he was due to go today. DD1 said last night they didn't think he was going! I am absolutely lost with how to deal with such unreasonable behaviour. The girls don't know whether they are coming or going!

Anyroad, hope stuff is good with you. One day I will post a lovely, calm, happy peaceful message........!!! xxx

You know, I would put money on him never going at all.
But actually, the holiday business aside, at least it would get him out of your hair for most of the year.