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to ask my DP to move out for a few nights

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twiddle · 28/06/2010 09:05

Just a piece of advice needed.

My DD is 9 months old and going through a terrible sleep pattern. For the past couple of weeks she wakes up screaming at 4am. Usually a bit of controlled crying does the trick.

My DP is on an important course this week for work. and this morning as per usual she woke at 4.15am. I tried to comfort her, then came back to bed where she continued crying to which my DP said 'can't you do something - bring her in here?' To which I tried, and she continued crying. So I took her out of the room and held her in my arms until she fell asleep - holding her in my arms was the only thing which stopped her crying.

The only thing is that she took until 5.30am to fall asleep, then she woke for her day at 6.20am.

I understand it's important for my DP to sleep this week - but I can't keep holding our DD for an hour and a half each night so just not to disturb him.

Should I ask him to consider staying at a hotel for a few days? (He has no friends who live close by)

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gingernutlover · 28/06/2010 09:10

could there be any other reason she is waking? How long has this been happeneing for (sorry I know its hard to remmeber when in the midst of it)

is he normally helpful? If it is just for this week then maybe you should buy him some earplugs?

twiddle · 28/06/2010 09:18

Thanks.

I can only guess it's teething (none yet - but definitely on their way), the heat and she's just getting over a heavy cold.

She's never been a great sleeper, but usually she self settles. That said, 4am has always been a tricky time when I've usually had to go into her room and give her a dummy. But in the past week or so, this hasn't comforted her at all, and has wanted picking up and with a spot of controlled crying she's usually back asleep within about 15 minutes.I just don't want to start holding her to sleep as I don't want her thinking that's the way things are going to be from now on!

He is normally fairly helpful, though there are times when I have to say to him could you please bath her (he usually waits till I ask him to do something - but from what I hear from friend's, he's not unusual in this!)

Earplugs....now there's an idea......

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FallacyTide · 08/11/2022 21:46

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FatAntelope · 08/11/2022 21:50

Can you explain to him why youre going to do the controlled crying and how that will be. Then just let him work out how he's going to manage it.

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