to take a multigrain loaf and semi skimmed milk?

[moonslide]

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My Mum is obese, has been for about 20 years. Not very long ago she was diagnosed as diebetic. Doctor wants her to lose 8 stone.

I was going to visit her today and got a text from asking if i could bring a white sliced loaf and whole milk. She is currently n a strict diet and shouldn't be eating either.

I took a multigrain loaf and semi skimmed instead. When questioned about it I said "it was all the shop had said these are better for you anyway"

She didn't comment.

I feel a bit bad for lying but I am sick of her refusal to take this thing seriously.

YANBU to take them instead but by telling her it is all the shop had you aren't getting the point accross are you? Unless you are doing all her shopping most of the time she will buy what she likes won't she?

One option that lets her know how you feel would be to say something along the lines of 'Mum what you do with your health is your business but I'm sorry I'm not going to buy you food that is unhealthy. If you want that you will need to get it yourself' Or words to that effect that are less sanctimonious anyway.

Having said all this I used to buy my Dad cigarettes in the duty free shop when he used to smoke (and I disagreed) as I figured he would get them anyway and I might as well save him some money. Thankfully he has now given up. About a year before I sat him down and told him that I wanted to tell him about things i had seen at work (I am a hospital doctor) that made me really want him to stop. I said that if he would hear me out I would then never talk about it to him again unless he asked as it was his choice but that I needed to know I had tried my best to make him stop so that i could live with myself if he died of a smoking related problem down the line. he listened and then continued and I had to suck that up as he is an adult who can choose to do whatever he wishes.

Maybe a similar approach would work better with your Mum? Afterall the odd pint of semi skimmed milk and multigrain bread are hardly going to make her lose 8 stone all on their own are they if she otherwise isn't following her diet? And if your Mum listens and says 'fair play moonslide but actually I am happy as I am being overweight and eating whatever I really like and if I die younger so be it' then that is her choice isn't it? On the other hand if you can persuade her then this sort of supportive chat might give her the support she needs. Afterall losing 8 stone is a massive undertaking.