To sometimes wish I had never had children

[Tryharder]

I am expecting DC3 in a few weeks so shouldn't really be starting this thread

We had a barbecue in our back garden today. Just DH and I and DS1 and DS2 aged 5 and 3 respectively. The DSs have been absolute sods - fighting, crying, complaining about everything, sulking.....I have spent the whole day shouting "don't" "no", stop it"...I have hardly sat down today and am knackered; my ankles are about the size of my thighs.

I looked over the fence and my single, childless neighbour was out on her sunbed with a good book, a glass of wine, ipod on presumably to drown out the offensive noise of children screaming in our garden.

Why oh why didn't I appreciate single life more when I was single?????

had a lovely day in garden with the kids. But have had days your talking about as well. When it's good it's very, very good but when it's bad its...

Phatcat

May I mention though that my darling brother did shoot me in the head with an air rifle!

Then one day 'persuaded' me to jump off the swing onto the shed roof (a splat into the shed wall worthy of Tom and Jerry).

One day he pushed me off a cliff in Cornwall (I lay winded at the bottom for quite a time) then he cried because he thought I was dead, (the sand cushioned my fall) and numerous other near fatalities

But I did know a guy whose mother walked out into the garden just in time to see him lining up his little sister against the shed door.

He had gathered up all the knives from the kitchen and was about to re-enact the knife throwing act from the circus they had been too!!

Ahh the 1970's - the days before 'elf 'n safety

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YANBU, I had one of those afternoons yesterday as well.

I have a night out with the girls on Friday night and am planning to sneak off for a movie on Saturday afternoon! Counting the hours...

sigh

why do people word their posts like this, when SOMEONE is going to read this and get upset???

I get your point but have some sensitivity no?

YANBU.

People need to read these threads for what they are porcamiseria and avoid the ones that are personally upsetting. I was very tempted to post "ignorant cow" to the OP on the last thread I read chose to hit next instead

We've all had those days OP and it does get better! My kids are older and I can read books, drink wine etc. but also remember those days you thought would never end.....

I hope that wasnt a dig at me sunnydelight!!!

I don't know one single mum who, after a particularly bad day, hasn't felt like this. Though I don't think you really mean that you wish you didn't have them, just that you're tired and the serious lack of peace is getting you down.

Sometimes I just want to be on my own away from all the fighting and bickering and moaning and screaming and constant 'mummy, mummy' and 'I want a drink' and the hundred other demands.
My kids are my whole world and a life without them in it is a life not worth living, but I just need a bit of bloody peace!!!

No, YADNBU. I think everyone must feel like that sometimes, and if they don't, maybe they ABU.

I love my children dearly, they are wonderful, as well as actually pretty well behaved. I do sometimes think life would be equally wonderful, just in a different way, if I hadn't had them though.

"Why the devil did you go for a third?"

was wondering that myself...

Porcamiseria - everyone is entitled to feel how they feel, regardless of whether or not they have been through trauma in their life. Sometimes, just sometimes, life gets too much for 'lucky' people and they need to sound off.

I don't wish I'd never had children butI really really wish I had appreciated the things I could do before having children [baths. going to the loo on my own, full nights sleep, going on holiday to exotic/romantic/quiet places etc] but that was partly circumstances and partly the fact that I got incredibly stressed about whether we'd be able to have children so I didn't appreciate the good stuff and would have even been jealous of parents with screaming hyper children.

I'm reckoning there will be a point when you can do stuff for yourself again

I just feel uncomfortable with the wording of the post, NOT the sentiment, hell no!

But I still find that type of wording a tad upsetting, and nowt will change my opnion on that.

Lets face it, she only worded it thus so so she'd get a response anyway

Fair enough. I just get tired of people claiming some sort of weird one upmanship and sense of entitlement because they have, unfortunately, had some very bad luck in their life. I agree we should be grateful that we haven't and try to be mindful of those that have but, ultimately, people shouldn't be made to feel guilty if their life is relatively straight forward.