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to be hurt that dh wont let me use his merino gloves?

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QSincognitoErgoSum · 27/06/2010 19:06

Some background:
We only have 2 weeks holiday this year, because I have so much work that we could not leave earlier. I had ordered some plants online, £250 worth of roses and shrubs. The weather is foul, it is 6 degrees and rain. The plants were 3 weeks late, and I need to plant them before we go.

I have spent most of the day today and yesterday out gardening in the freezing cold and the rain. I took what I thought were my merino base layer gloves, worn inside rubber gloves. This kept my hands warm and dry.

He discovered I was wearing the merinos, when I took of my rubber gloves to drink some tea. He went ballistic on me. They were his merinos, and they should not be used for such work, and my long-ish nails have frayed them at the tips. I apologized, and said if the merinos were his, I would of course replace them. It did not stop him, he was really nasty and shouting and screaming it was beside the point, they were £20 and how DARE I use his gloves.

I told him I was hurt by his attitude, my hands would be too wet and cold if I did not use them, and I had offered to replace them.
He told me to fuck off.

So I said, in this case, I will wait for sunshine to do the gardening, though it will possibly delay our departure with about a week.

Maybe this should not be in AIbu. It should possibly be in relationships.

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MisSalLaneous · 27/06/2010 19:13

Deary me. This can't be about the gloves, surely?! Maybe he's frustrated about something else and snapped because of something small. If not, he's an arse and needs to grow up. Or do the gardening himself if no-one else can wear "his" gloves! Telling him this would probably not help though.

I'd be really hurt and, frankly, furious if that happened to me.

squarehat · 27/06/2010 19:13

?? Is this for real? If a pair of £20 gloves could cause so much trouble what would happen if you dinted the car or broke the TV?

Sounds like a massive over reaction IMO!

KiwiKat · 27/06/2010 19:20

Good heavens, this is clearly NOT about the gloves! What else is going on?

orienteerer · 27/06/2010 19:21

A wind up I assume .

LynetteScavo · 27/06/2010 19:22

Where are you in the cold and rain/

I have no idea why he reacted like this. I would probably be quite peed off if DH ruined my merino gloves, though. but then, he wouldn't replace them.

Alambil · 27/06/2010 19:24

why assume it's a wind up? weird.

I think he needs to get a life... and find something proper to worry about

KurriKurri · 27/06/2010 19:28

I'd say he owes you an apology at the very least. Total over reaction on his part. Was it completely out of the blue, or has he been stressed recently? Or is he normally very unreasonable?

QSincognitoErgoSum · 27/06/2010 19:36

He has been extremely short tempered the last few days.

He was stressing about showing the england germany match up on the projector via I player (using a proxy) and blew a fuse over me trying to vacuum up some mess the kids had made (and he does not even watch football himself), as he could not hear whether he got any sound or not.

I went out to garden.

I would not post a windup under my regular user name, that would be daft!

We are in the north of norway, hence the cold weather. (which I think bugs him too.)

He has been SO NICE for a very long time.

oh, and he usually cope with stress by exercising, but he cant because he is post op and due another op.

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