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I had a friend who would do the same thing to me. I had chosen a girls prep around the corner for DD and she had chosen little infants school near to her for her DD ( we live at other sides of town)
We had both chosen based on our different criteria ( I wanted all girls, walking distance of home , lots of in school activities, lots and lots of sport etc - she wanted close to home, State school, small class sizes, short school day) We were both happy that our choices met our criteria.
A year later I had to tell her I couldn't be around her any more.
Every converstaion we had she quickly turned it to our girls schools. She criticised the hours, the parents , the uniform, the results, the trips, the homework...it was endless. And all from the position that she knew nothing about the school otherthan that which I told her as a result of her direct questions.
In the end I asked her why she was just so endlessly rude - including in front of our DDS and she seemed genuinely stumped.
I think some people will always defend their own choices by being rude about the alternatives. It happens all over the board about key life choices.
I understand that there is a debate to be had about education, it is such a serious issue. But the endless name calling and rudeness is depressing indeed.
But it really does happen from both side. We just tend to hear the insults aimed , we feel, at us and think the insults aimed at the other side are fair game.
My kids are nice people but I hear some of them called poncy , over entitrled wasters, and yet hear that the other son is there because i want nothing better and don't care about his education.
When this is said about our children it is deeply hurtful to hear - especially when it is far from the truth.
But to pretend it only happens one way is not the truth of it. We should all knock the name calling on the head