to think life is easier with DH away

[marenmj]

really, MUCH easier. I don't know why. We get on great, love him to bits, and my life is definitely richer for having him in it.

But he has been away on a trip for a few days and my day-to-day has been so much easier.

Is it one of those "I can't miss you if you're never gone" sorts of things?

YANBU. I completley agree although. Absence makes the heart grow finder and all that.
I'm the same with my sister too - we don't get on as well when I'm living neat her as we do when we don't see each other for months on end.

My Dh is great but we constantly bicker if he's off work for more than a few days!

Perfectly reasonable IMO and IME!

My house is always so much tidier when Dh is away. I miss him for the first couple of days, but then dd and I just find our own rhythm and I relish having the whole bed to myself

YANBU at all. My DH went away for 10 days and every time I took DD out, we left on time. Have come to realise that it is DH who makes us late, even if he is 'helping' me. He is great though.

oh yes - the mess thing.
I like to tidy as I go along, getting DCs to tidy too, whereas at the weekend (dh works away in the week), there's toys/wires from the playstation all over the floor. He just lets it stay like that and it really annoys me, especially as I've spent all week keeping it looking nice for when he gets back on a friday. Don't want to think I don't do anything all week!

I find this when DH goes away. Although he's fab and will "take direction" I find that when he's away I have got one less person to think about/plan around/remind to do stuff...

YANBU
My DH was in the RAF until recently. I used to grumble when he went away but actually got into such a great routine (with 4 kids!) that I used to find him annoying when he came home!!

Love him, he's a good dad, and heaven knows I value his many skills... but it was still often easier solo.. even on long detachments..

Now he's ex RAF and home most nights, and I have to keep him busy with DIY