only one who cooks

[dexifehatz]

sitting here starving everyone waiting for me too make tea aibu to think that my husband should cook tea for a change?

Ask him to cook then (or get a takeaway).

YADNNNNNBU

I am the Only One Who Cooks here too

dp does that "strategic incompetence" thing- you know where you fuck up utterly simple things like pasta pesto or toast- ffs - so someone else will take over and do it for you

I don't even LIKE cooking! Under any circumstances!

I blame his mum. She's a lovely woman but he never had to do a stroke when he was growing up. He refers to himself as "The Cuckoo"- ie he just used to lie on the sofa watching telly and wait for his mum to bring him foooood

YADNBU, the same situation here. My DH never cooks and I have had to get over it. He does do so much more though so it balances itself out, although occasionally it riles me. I totally understand. At least now my DS 12 can cook so sometimes he will cook me an omelette or bacon etc. Is there any chance he will EVER cook, if not then you might just have to grin and bear it or ask him to cook if he is generally lazy.

same with me, but if i really didnt want to cook i would get take out. atleast if he doesnt moan about that then i dont have a problem. if they start moaning "oh how dare you, should home cook every day regardless of situation" or something like that, then i would start to get pd off
if your dh never makes dinner i dont think he will just get the idea to do it because you havent done yet, you would have to be more direct and suggest him to do it, otherwise wont cross their mind?

no, yanbu to think he could cook sometimes. BUT, if you do generally do all the cooking then they'll be expecting you to, so instead of sitting there starving either go and cook and then have a chat with your husband later and tell him you need him to cook now and then, or ask him to do it now!

YANBU. We used to go through the charade of making a weekly schedule and dividing up the responsibility. It seems hilarious in retrospect. I wish I could have all those hours I spent arguing about the stupid schedule back. I could have learned a second language or something. He does go and get the takeaway, though. And keeps a tidy binder of menus available for my perusal.

YABU if you usually do the cooking and haven't told them you are not intending to tonight. What do you expect to happen?

If however you have said: "I can't be arsed tonight someone else do it" then YANBU.

I do the "I can't be arsed" thing sometimes and DH either cooks or sorts out a takeaway for us.

dh and Ihave a deal: I cook and he does all the dishes.

DW has never cooked a meal in 25 years apart from warm up oven chips and ready meals.

I dont mind though. She hates cooking and she does other things in the house so it balances out. I like cooking.

YANBU - just say you're not doing the cooking tonight, otherwise you could be in for a hungry evening! I like cooking, and if I can't be bothered we have takeaway. DH is annoying in the kitchen - I have a way of doing things that he doesn't, just like I don't/can't do things he does around the house such as hoovering/dusting.

What thisisyesterday said. have you actually told them you arent cooking tonight?