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Original poster

To feel like this

35 replies

RunawayWife · 26/06/2010 19:12

Hello cancer.
I have spent a lovely day with my sister, we went to the scout fate, we ate strawberries and drank wine. We sang alone with the band and we had a wonderful time and lots of laughs. So if you think that for one moment you are going to take her from me you are so very very wrong. She is my baby sister and I intend to keep her till we are really old and wearing purple, embarrassing my children and going to bingo So bring it on, cause I am keeping her here with me, so you do your worst, you can make her sick, you can have her hair, you can give her days when she just wants it to stop, but in the end she is staying with me because you are not as strong as we are together and you are not taking her from me, so go pick on someone else because I don''t give a shit that the Dr's say 5 years, she is mine and I am keeping her. You picked on the wrong person this time.

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peeringintothevoid · 26/06/2010 19:16

You sound much stronger willed than the cancer; I bet you have it quaking in its nasty cancerous boots. I hope you beat it together.

catinboots · 26/06/2010 19:16
Numberfour · 26/06/2010 19:16

YADNBU

Enormarse · 26/06/2010 19:17

YANBU - your sister is lucky to have such a fighter on her side.

BouncingTurtle · 26/06/2010 19:18

I couldn't help but post when I read this.

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} for you and your sister.

You sound very very strong and your sister is lucky to have you helping her through this difficult time. I really hope that with your helo she can beat this awful disease.

pranma · 26/06/2010 19:21

Oh love she is lucky to have a sister like you to fight by her side.
Where is her cancer if you dont mind saying?
I had breast cancer in 2006 and as an only child it would have meant such a lot if I had had a sister.My dd,ds and oh were wonderful but......
YADNBU

CheeryCherry · 26/06/2010 19:21

YANBU...sending positive vibes for you both, you sound like a fabulous sister. You are lucky to have each other. Best of luck.

Original poster
RunawayWife · 26/06/2010 19:21

She wants to stop treatment

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JaynieB · 26/06/2010 19:24

Would that be against medical advice?

Bobbalina · 26/06/2010 19:27

what are her reasons?

Original poster
RunawayWife · 26/06/2010 19:30

Started in cervix, treatment worked well, now in her blood and spine, can not operate treatment making her very ill.
She is sick and tired, in pain and had enoght

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mrsmindcontrol · 26/06/2010 19:38

Puts my silly 'bad day' problems into perspective.
Love to you and your sister. How lucky she is to have someone like you by her side.
Hope you get some good news soon.

Bobbalina · 26/06/2010 19:40

oh poor love. So pleased you had a great day today.

I would say never give up - my uncle lost one and a bit lungs to TB age 17, he was definitely going to die from it as his sister had done aged 18...and then they discovered a miracle cure for TB. My uncle is now 80 years old, fairly fit and active (despite only having part of one lung left) and he looks great.

pranma · 26/06/2010 19:42

Right.Then maybe your role is to be a rock for her to lean on.I guess you know that once a cancer has metastasised then it cant really be cured though it can often be contained for a while.I think she probably wants to go for quality of life rather than quantity and by stopping treatment[chemo can be ghastly]she is giving herself a breathing space.

Original poster
RunawayWife · 26/06/2010 19:45

I just can not support her in a dision to give up.

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JaynieB · 26/06/2010 19:53

Runaway wife - such a hard place for you to be in - but I envy the relationship you have with you sister. Must be so lovely to have a sister who is your friend too.

Timbachick · 26/06/2010 19:56

Oh Runaway. How I feel for you. My heart, and all the prayers, love , support and hugs I have in there, go out to you and your sister. How lucky she is to have you on her side and how lucky you are to have her - to feel so strongly says volumes. I have a sister and I would fight tooth and nail for her, and she for me - just as you are doing. Your post made me cry for all the love and pain you are feeling. I understand your inability to agree/support her desire for the treatment to stop, it seems impossible to let her go down that road. Dwell on the good days, like today. And never stop fighting.

mumbar · 26/06/2010 19:56

YANBU for you. Best of luck for the future.

Nancy66 · 26/06/2010 20:00

You sound like a fantastic sister.

Your poor sister - the treatment for cancer can be absolutely brutal. But if it gives her a fighting chance then it's got to be worth continuing with hasn't it?

desertgirl · 26/06/2010 20:23

Oh runaway, how awful. I hope the two of you can work out a way to go forward that you are both happy with; but how hideous to have to be making that kind of choice.

Original poster
RunawayWife · 27/06/2010 08:39

Thank you everyone x

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GiddyPickle · 27/06/2010 09:06

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Momdeguerre · 27/06/2010 09:10

Yanbu. I am certain that your strength will help you sis.

mistressploppy · 27/06/2010 09:12

x Wifey x

lazarusb · 27/06/2010 13:09

I thought I'd had a bad week this week but things like this make me realise what an idiot I am. I hope that you stay strong and support your sister. I lost a friend in her early 30s a few years ago and she, too, went through hell and had times like your sister. Sending best wishes to you both x