AIBU to ask DS nursery to do a separate activity for boys?

[Fizzielove]

On the last day before they close for 2 weeks they have decided to do a beauty day - ie do their hair and nails and put make up on them....

Maybe it's just me - but I just think it's a little inappropriate for little boys - couldn't they do face painting or something for the boys?

What do you think AIBU?

YABU

What is inappropriate about it?

Sounds like a ghastly activity for any child - why aren't they outside enjoying the sunshine?

Well I think it's inappropriate for girls too. I wouldn't be at all impressed if my nursery did this.

Well yes and no

I dont think that a seperate activity for boys is the answer

The children should be doing activities that are inclusive so Nursery are at fault

If you like I can nip orf and dig up some info for you

When do they break up?

I have no idea why they are doing this? They usually are outside playing - maybe just trying to do something different for the last day!?

Erm... I'd be very unhappy at this idea if they had a beauty day at the nursery I send DC to and I have a daughter! It isn't very age appropriate is it? I'd suggest something they'll all enjoy- sports day, dressing up etc.

I would have something to say about a nursery putting make-up on my pre-schooler tbh, whether boy or girl is irrelevent.

Oh dear... sounds dreadful whether it's boys or girls. I've got this unfortunate image of parents picking up their little darlings and being presented with some freakish gonk that looks like Quentin Crisp, all cupid's bow lips and fake nails.

Inappropriate for girls too.

Dressing up, face painting, costumes etc. would be much better.

Basically they sent home a letter stating they were having a 'beauty day' and what that entailed - it's a consent form so if we dont' sign it he's excluded from the activities all day.....

BoysAreLikeDogs - that'd be great if you could?

Firstly I bet it does end up being face painting for the boys (whether or not it should).

Secondly YABU I think - it's not going to do them any harm to have a play around with beauty stuff, they'll probably really enjoy it - it's all just dressing up at that age really.

If it was me and I had a dd there, I'd be pissed off if it was turned into a separate things for girls and boys thing and my dd had to do 'beauty' stuff while the boys got to do something else. That would smack of making the girls think the only thing they should be thinking about is making themselves look pretty while the boys have all the fun.

If it's the same for all of them then it's just fun playing and dressing up, even if ten years down the line only the girls are doing it, it will still be fun for the boys to play at doing that at the age they are now. Some of them will find it boring but then so will some of the girls - everyone gets into that stuff at different ages and some never do.

What diamondsandtiaras said.

national strategies here

I would argue that a beauty day IS excluding boys at Nursery

Of course the boys can join in but the Nursery should offer a traditional boy activity like, well, like what?

Face painting yes

Beauty, no

I'd hope the 'make up' they used would be face paints anyway though or something that's designed for kids faces, not any old cheapo make up. And more fancy dress like, than tarting up adult-style, obviously!

That's the other thing concerning me - we've only just got his skin sorted out - was at dermatology in children's hospital again last week - and I really don't want it to flare up again just because they've used cheap cack on him!!

The idea of putting make up on any children is unbearably yukky.

Sounds inapproariate for both girls and boys of that age to me. I'd be livid if the nursery we use offered the girls beauty and the boys sport.

I'd go talk to the nursery manager to ask what is going on before asking for seperate boys activites though.

yuck to little girls OR boys wearing make up

is it for a nursery pageant?

I'd say no if you've got dermatological worries.

I'd steer clear of saying (or implying) it would be OK if he was a girl rather than a boy though.

Personally I'm a bit uncomfortable little girls or boys having a "beauty day" - seems to potentially be sending the wrong message to them. Don't think it's necessarily about the exclusion of boys but perhaps that because my 2.2 DS loves dressing up in skirts, having clips in his hair and is regularly seen with a hangbag over his arm when I pick him up from nursery ! If the weather is still good they should be outdoors playing in water and the like. If bad, then face painting, mucky play and dressing up would be much better.

I would FREAK if they were doing this to either of my children, boy or girl..

I think that it is a horrible idea! OK if they let them dress up and be pirates etc with face paint. I hope that if they go ahead they let the boys have the full works, if they want it. I think that there would be a huge fuss if they did something 'just for the boys'. It seems unfair to me that no one bats an eye if a girl wants to be a fireman but they don't want to let a boy be a bride.

I wouldnt like the idea of my daughter doing this either.
DS often watches me put my make-up on and I will give him a sweep of blusher on his nose if he asks. I learnt my lesson with nail polish though when I painted his thumb in lime green polish and he then wiped it down the front of a brand new jumper. Grrr.

Dont think it's an ideal activity for nursery though, surely theres more fun and appropriate things they can do?

inappropriate for any nursery age children imo.