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AIBU To Hate Doctors Surgeries & Recpetionists

14 replies

CheekyBigBrotherFan · 25/06/2010 09:28

They are so nosey

I ring up to get DH an appointment, he needs one before monday as he needs a sick note signing off, anyway the receptionist is asking 'well whats wrong with him?' 'Is he fit enough to go back to work?' 'You should have rung at 8am'

Grrrrr. Yes i know i should have called at 8am but i have two boisterous toddlers to sort out for school Grrrrr.

God i hate Doctors Surgeries. Plus if id have called at 8am i wouldnt have been able to get through till 8.15 and then all the appointments are taken. Happens ALL the time.

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belly36 · 25/06/2010 09:46

Same as mine only the phone opens at 8.45. I once went up there instead of phoning, to be told there were no appointments for THREE MONTHS. As I left the surgery, my doctor rang to ask me to come in and she was available all morning. How smug did I look going back in?..

Flisspaps · 25/06/2010 09:56

YABU

They won't ask for their own good. They'll have been told to do this by the practice. They'll ask because they're used to getting people ringing in asking for a sick note who can self cert. These people then take up appointments which can be used by those that actually need them.

It's not their fault that you have two toddlers to look after so didn't phone when you're supposed to, nor is it their fault that the appointments go quickly - they can't make up more appointments than there are.

Belly36 Perhaps your doctor's appointments for the day had been blocked out because she was meant to be elsewhere (a course perhaps which as cancelled) or because she had a specific list of people that she wanted to see that day.

I get so pissed off with the attitude of people who think that doctors receptionists wake up in the morning thinking 'I wonder how many people I can make life awkward for today' or 'Lets see how many people I ca embarrass by asking what's wrong with them'

Mingg · 25/06/2010 10:10

I hate having to explain to the receptionist what might be wrong with me when making an appointment in person.

CheekyBigBrotherFan · 25/06/2010 10:15

Flisspaps - My husband was rushed in hospital on Sunday night with heart problems and irratic heart rate and breathing problems, he has been at the drs nearly everyday this week trying to organise a 24 hour palpitation herat tracer and cardologist appointment.

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bumpsnowjustplump · 25/06/2010 10:21

I am so lucky with my gp surgery and these stories highlight that to me. Our receptionists and all medical staff are amazing. YANBU to be really pissed off with yours though!! Flisspaps i have never in all my adult life had to explain to a receptionist at my surgery what the need for an appointment is... The only exception was when ds fell down our cellar and I ran in crying my eyes out with no appointment.. I did explain why i was so hysterical then ..

Why would the receptionist need to know? They are not qualified to assess a condition!!

bumpsnowjustplump · 25/06/2010 10:22

oh and jabs as they only have set days for them...

Mumcentreplus · 25/06/2010 10:29

I have been asked whats wrong with me on occassion and I think 'mind your business'..they also ask if its an emergency...considering that I visit the doctor very rarely...I dont really include the Doctors Surgery and one the top 5 places to visit for the hell of it!

streakybacon · 25/06/2010 10:31

I've got an excellent surgery too, but I'm aware how lucky I am to have it.

Ours has online booking and prescription ordering, which makes things much easier. Nurses and doctors are happy to talk on the phone for non-urgent issues like checking drug interactions etc. They're very obliging.

Reception staff are very polite and considerate, there is a screen so you don't have to discuss personal matters in front of the waiting room, and you can ask to go elsewhere to talk in more detail if necessary.

Maybe if those of you who are dissatisfied complained to the practice managers in sufficient numbers they might be inclined to change their procedures. Could be worth a try.

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 25/06/2010 10:37

If I phone for an appointment at 8:30, I usually get an appointment for about 9:10, 9:20. No one has ever asked me what is wrong. If i'm not sure if I need to go in, I can usually get a doctor to call me back for a phone appointment.

MrsC2010 · 25/06/2010 10:39

Dcotors' receptionists are told to ask.

Flisspaps · 25/06/2010 10:41

Bah! Where's my reply gone?!

Cheeky The receptionist either forgot or didn't know what had happened to your husband - they see a LOT of people and can't be expected to remember the conditions of them all. Better that they check than have a load of people in taking up appointments they don't need when they can self-cert.

Bump They may not be able to assess your condition but they may be able to direct you to someone who can better deal with your reason for being seen. At our surgery the GPs don't do smears, you have to see the nurse at the smear clinic on a specific day. There are also a small amount of appointments kept for people who need to be seen THAT day (eg sick children) rather than those who can wait a day or two.

Surely that benefits everyone?

I say again - these receptionists aren't asking for their own nosy purposes but because their practice has specifically TOLD them to do so. Seriously, they'd probably rather not know about your ailments!

CheekyBigBrotherFan · 25/06/2010 11:11

Well at my mums doctors once a receptionist was adament she wanted to know what was wrong with my mum and my mum said 'id rather discuss it with a doctor' and she kept on asking so my mum said 'i think growing a knob'

The receptionist never asked again lol

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Butterbur · 25/06/2010 11:15

I rang our surgery once for an emergency appointment at lunchtime, only to be told by the dragon receptionist "You have to ring at 8:30 for emergencies."

Oh, well, pardon me for only falling ill later in the day!

I've also been refused follow up appointments after hospital vists by the receptionist "Sorry there's no appointments until ...."

Well when did you get your medical qualification then? You're a receptionist. You shouldn't be in a position to over rule a doctor in the hospital. If he/she says I need an appointment in five days, I should get one in five days.

Actually, both times I eventually got to see the doctor at the required time, but only after running the gauntlet of the obnoxious receptionist, and making a fuss.

ginnybag · 25/06/2010 11:44

Apologies for the length of this...

I've been a Dr's receptionist, and I've been in practice management and I've been the person trying to get an emergency appointment for my two month old only to be told my surgery is shut that afternoon - so I've been on both ends.

And the one thing I always say is this:

There are three causes for Receptionist's being told to ask.

  1. (and most common!) Receptionists are told to ask because a good portion of the population are idiots who think head lice and athlete's foot and travel vaccs constitute emergencies.
  1. They are told to ask so they can follow a DR-WRITTEN priority sheet for making appointment's - because there's a limit to how many there are.

And there are only so many appointments because there are only so many appointments that there can be. If a doctor worked a fourteen hour day, and you were patient 200, and he made a mistake, would you complain? Of course you would, and rightly so, but that wouldn't mitigate the fact that the doctor made the error because he was exhausted and burned out.

Receptionists are grilled to know this - if they know that their GP is ill themselves, has been up all night with their own child and already has six extra patients to see, they are going to ask what's wrong before asking the dr to see another - for the GP's good and the good of the patient!

The basic guidelines are thus:

A sick child should always be seen. ALWAYS.

A Pregnant woman should always be seen.

For everyone else - it's a case of availability. And it sucks, but it isn't the receptionist's fault.

  1. Sometimes, just sometimes, the receptionist asks because you don't need to see the GP. You need to see someone else, sometimes fairly sharpish!

My practice ran an average of one a week of phone calls asking to see or speak to a GP when, in fact, the person on the other end of the line should have been phoning 999. I know of three cases specifically where, if the receptionist hadn't asked and made the 999 call, the patient would have waited - and probably have died. They are trained in emergency symptom recognition for just that reason.

I know none of this is helpful when your ill and embarrassed and just want to be seen, but there are reasons and it helps to remember that receptionists work long hours on not-great pay doing a stressful job. You really will get much further with them by gritting your teeth and being nice - a nice patient on the phone is a very rare thing!

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