For not ironing something for DH?

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Everything has become a blur and I'm unsure of what is normal behaviour now and what is him just taking the piss so please bare with me.
Dh works full time. I am at college part time so am at home more than he is. He also does alot of the housework but this is his choice, I don't make him. He insists on taking over in the kitchen for instance, does 90% of the cooking BY CHOICE. One thing he won't do is ironing so fair enough, I take on that responsibilty. But because I'm at college, I don't have all day every day to do housework so I do get behind with it sometimes. Yesterday I had a massive pile of ironing so I spent 2 HOURS going through it. Not to mention doing breakfasts, the school run, 2 lots of laundry, hanging out in garden, taking DS to dentist, making dinner etc. DH comes home with some overalls and asks me to iron them. This was at 7pm last night. By this time I was getting tired, trying to sort DS out with bedtimes etc. He also wanted me to "sort the kitchen out" so he could do some baking . I have an eye infection atm so my eyes were red raw, stinging like mad, itching, I could barely see so I put off ironing these overalls. 9pm he asks again. I said "not now, I'm tired, my eyes are hurting and I'm not feeling great". 11pm he says "wow look at the time - and you still have to iron those things for me yet!" I snapped "have you SEEN my eyes??? why can't you just do it for this once??" so he snaps back "because I do everything else, ironing is YOUR job". He doesn't do EVERYTHING else. I'm sure he thinks I just sit at home watching TV all day.
So aibu to insist that if he wants something ironing at an awkward time he should do it himself? Before today he has tried to get me up at 5am to iron his work clothes before he sets off. I find it a bit pathetic that he can't do it himself every now and again.

Or AIBU because he works full time and I don't??

He knows that if you spend the money, you haven't got a "running away" fund - which it sounds like you need.

Agree with expat- his behaviour is not normal or acceptable, it is abusive. You really need to get out of there.

If this really is about ironing then in my opinion if you have the time do it, if he has the time he should be doing it. Relationships should be the two of you helping each other out not you both having a long list of whats yours to do and whats his to do. 50/50.
When my DP was working fulltime I did the majority of household things cause thats fair but if I asked him for a hand or to do something he just did it. Now I work and DP stays home and he does majority of household things and I still do my share too. A bit of consideration from both parts is whats needed.

Having seen your other posts this quite clearly isn't about ironing is it. I agree with tortoise Op wants a list of reasons to not stick around.

He's trying to show you what a lovely thoughtful man he is, with the money, to undermine any 'rebellious' thoughts you are having about leaving him. It's a pathetic attempt to control you by making you question your opinion of him.

I.e 'How can you say I'm a thoughtless, selfish, arrogant, repulsive, raping arse? Look how I always insist that you treat yourself to nice things! What kind of bastard would encourage you to do that? It's because I'm not a bastard and you know it, you're just making things up'.

Keep making the lists. If I weren't worried that he would turn violent on you, I would suggest grasping him very firmly by his penis, twisting it and telling him to leave you the f* alone.

What a great baby! He's so insecure! And it sounds as if he only does stuff he chooses to do (like the baking) - because he wants to. Does he ever scrape the shit off the lavatory bowl? Or (has he decided) is that 'your job', too.

Your points, 1,2 and 3 are bang on. Well done you for narrowing it down to just the three.

He sounds like one fucked up weirdo. What a great guy to have a relationship with - every girl's dream. But you can change him - NOT! Don't even bother trying, they're never worth it - (not that you've said that).

How much is this 'inheritance'? Is it worth hanging on til he gets it and then DIVORCING him?

Chuck him out, chuck him out! And keep the house.

And wadd'ya mean

'...he works full time and I don't??'

You have a child/children and a home to run don't you? That IS full time work. The difference is he has the privilege of getting paid for his!

No, YA-definately-NBU - this is not normal, reasonable or rational behaviour and your life would be so much happier without the stress.

I'm a single adult household (raised all my children as a lone parent). From my living on my own/leading my own life perspective there is NO WAY on god's earth I would put up with this shit from ANYONE.