to want to rip DP's head off and stick it up his bum?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

He has come to stay tonight when he finished work.
DS2 is unwell and therefore quite restless and will only settle on the sofa tonight. So DP puts a film on for us (he and I) to watch. he turns the home cinema system up to 22 and on comes this scene of someone banging on a door.
DS2 wakes up sobbing and shaking, made dp turn it the heck down.

knobbbbbbbbbbbbbbb

But - why would you agree to watching a film at that volume (or at all, really) with an unwell child sleeping on the sofa in the first place?

It wasn't that loud in all the parts just this one scene.
And am watching tv because everytime i nod off DS2 wakes up so am watching it to keep me awake.

if he knew that scene was there then it was thoughtless.

if he didn't he aint psychic

I see, I see.

But...sorry, I still think that either you should have known that there was going to be a loud scene, or your partner can't have been expected to know the same thing.

Was he supposed to vet the film first? You both chose to watch it. Presumably the loud bit took him as by surprise as it did you. Why is it his fault?

You were just as capable of predicting the loudness as her was, so YABU.

Hope Ds2 gets better soon.

because he always has the tv up too loud for my liking tbh and i keep telling him that!

oh its not really his fault....i am just tired and want DS2 to sleep alllllllll night without coughing and spluttering

So he know it was a really loud part of the film?

Otherwise why were you both watching a film that loud with a poorly DS in the same room?

I know, it's awful having a sick child when you're tired, I do sympathise.

My husband has the TV on too loud for my liking, too. I am constantly asking him to turn it down (there's an issue with the set where level 4 is too quiet to hear the quieter bits, and level 5 is too loud for my comfort, so unless he watches it with the remote in his hand like I do, it's often too loud for me). If there'd been a sick child there I'd have put my foot down altogether about the volume, etc.

yabu

He didn't know the film was going to be loud any more than I did.
My bugbear is that I am always saying the tv is too loud.

Then turn it down?

I do,
it is me thats BU and i know this this morning after having little sleep.
Doesn't matter what time of the day it is i hate loud tv's