to be annoyed my friend has cancelled the weekend away

[Loujalou]

Ok I might get flamed.

We were supposed to be going to a Uni reunion but the day I went to book it - it was cancelled. My friend (S) had already booked her ticket (she is more organised and childless - but mainly more organised).

I suggested that we book a hotel and stay in the city. She found a hotel. There was another friend T who wanted to come but wasn't sure if she could stay.

Anyway I was rubbish and didn't book the room as I suggested another friend C could come along. So S and C were going to share a room and I was going to have my own. Anyway I probably am not being organised enough but I suggested that we get a room for all 3 but my friend said that was against hotel policy as the rooms with the sofa beds were for 2 adults and 2 kids. When I suggested that we just have one room between the 3 of us I heard nothing - its a big hotel and staff are hardly going to check.

Anyway today I got a FB message saying my friend was bailing out as she was bored of organising and it wasn't the weekend she was expecting. Its not til 3rd July which in my terms is quite far away as am trying to sort out this weekend first.

Its a shame as was looking forward to going and it was going to be my first night away from both DH and DS since DS was born over 2 years ago. To be fair I am usually organised but not at the moment.

Well it sounds like you messed her about
you invited extra people, you said you'd have a single room and then you said you'd crash in theirs
no wonder she got fed up

No the extra person was her best friend and she agreed it was a good idea to invite her as friend was not at our uni and couldn't go to original reunion. She decided I would have my own room and the other person was not sure what she wanted to do. I never said I would have my own room it was decided for me.

you sound annoying tbh. I wouldn't want to have randomly arranged weekend changed and then have you want to share my room after inviting extra randoms. The 3rd July is only 10 days away which is hardly forward planning, YABU.

I'm confused and baffled by your post, so I bet your mate just gave up for an easy life.

What I didn't change the weekend. The reunion was cancelled by the university.

We then were going to book rooms in a hotel. The 3rd person couldn't decide if she was going to stay an extra night or not. It was only last week when the 4th person was invited and it was decided I was having my own room.

I am usually the person who does the organising out of my friends. Well one of them and am usually well organised. I have a lot going on at the moment and am not on top of my game.

Threes a crowd anyway so it's probably best the whole thing fell through

sounds like you were chopping and changing plans and not being definite about anything, so she got fed up trying to sort it out and cancelled.

YABU. In future if you want to do something book a room, ask your friends and stop messing them around.

To be honest, what I think has most likely happened that your friend bailed out on you, as you were messing about and not able to do a reasonable booking. But as she has the ticket already, she has to go, otherwise she will lose money, so I bet she is already going with her friend, in a double room.

Shame, if you were looking forward, that you were unable to make the arrangements.

May I ask, why did you not leave the booking to your more organized friend?

She has got her money back.

She could have booked it herself as the money was refundable. She didn't. I would have been happy for her to book it - if she was that bothered. I didn't mess her around that much - I think I have made it sound more complicated than it is.

Aw bless you, yes I think you did a bit
have a lovely weekend at home - maybe arrange a girls night out with mum friends?

Don't give yourself a hard time. Your friend could easily have helped confirm things with either of the friends and then get something booked. You couldn't do anything until you knew who was coming, and whether you were booking one room or two - and a room for 3 was a perfectly sensible suggestion IMO.

Thanks for seeing my side. Will have a fun weekend at home and might even do the car boot sale with my friend that I originally couldn't do.

I was really looking forward to it but never mind.

Thanks for listening to me rant. I do realise I could have been more organised but it was the 3rd person - T who couldn't decide whether she could stay or not. I was happy to go along with whatever.

Sorry for confusing you all too. Brain is not in gear today