AIBU to think school have got this wrong?

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Tommorrow at 3pm my DS's school will be showing the England match in the upper hall.
Great, for the kids, but what about the parents?
My DS has just informed me that he wants to go to this screening as his classmates will be there.
Unfortunately, I have a 2 yr old and a 3 yr old who will not want to watch this game, and a DH who has to work.
I realise that the school want the kids to have some fun, but FGS, do they really think we parents can just drop everything to go to school for a football match on the telly?
My DH cannot just leave work at 3pm. I have younger children to look after, who need to be collected from nursery at 4pm. Can't just drop everything , but DS is really upset now as I have explained to him we cannot attend.
Do schools not THINK of these things? I am sure other parents at this school are facing same problems.
And, no, the addition of free hotdogs does not help.

"Stop beating yourself up about disappointing him. He'll get over it, and be better able to cope when other things don't go his way. Also, you don't have to justify it all to him either , just tell him that's the way it's going to be and let's get on with it.'

You don't have to justify yourself of course - but I think you do have to acknowledge his feelings - little boys do take football very very seriously!

Jeez, I can´t think of anything worse than having to stay & watch football!

I doubt I would have let my child stay if I had to be there tbh!

Things worked out ok in the end, managed to pick Ds up early so only missed a small amount of the match.
However...the school have given me another challenge with the letter they sent home after school.
They now want parents to go for school dinners next wednesday. Parents will have a school dinner same as their child. They will pay £2.50 and can bring any other children ATTENDING the same reception or nursery.
Okay, good idea to get parents involved with what their kids eat at school.
BUT...my other DC's do not attend THIER nursery, so am not allowed to take them, even though am prepared to pay for all of us to eat.
So, now I have to ask DD's nursery to take her and youngest DS on a day that they don't normally go, 1 hour earlier which means in all this school dinner is going to cost me....£17.50. I am willing to go along with this for DS's sake, but honest to God.
I am sure that many of you will think this is a good idea by the school, and so do I, but why can't they accommodate my other DC's.

Think my head's about to explode!

Why are the school doing that?

Good question....suppose its to get parents participating more.
also, they need funds to pay for new computers, so they are charging money for meal to go towards this i suppose.
I think its a good idea, in theory, as i would love to have school dinners again(yum yum). Would like to take my other DC's though.

Fundraiser-well then you´d think that as many as possible, wouldn´t you?

Unless they are limited by space/cooking facilities.

But then if they ask numbers in advance?

But really odd imo that you can´t take your other children-and for them.

We managed to get the football sorted too. I got a phone call from my Dad to say he my brother and several mates were all watching the match in a pub in the next joined them was actually one of the first parents at school collecting after the match.

Trouble is, with both these events (Football match and school dinner issue) the school is never going to be able to please everyone, as there are so many different situations.

It suited you to leave the child there to watch the match, but for another parent - that could be equally as disastrous), and staying at the school to watch the match might have been their best scenario.

Other parents might not like the idea of picking the children up from after the game, because that would then cause them to miss the game, or their other children - if they have other children at different schools (say older / younger). The situation you describe would have been a nightmare for me - later pick ups are difficult for me to manage, particularly if I have got to pick up DD2 from somewhere. I would have found it far easier to have picked up DD2 earlier and taken her to the game with me - the scenario set up by your school would have been ideal for me!

At the end of the day, there are, what say, 200 children at the school, so that's 200 different situations / needs / requirements. The school is never going to satisfy all those needs, and so sometimes people have to miss out. Unfortunately, the world does not work around us as individuals, and sometimes things are not convenient for us. That's life I guess.