to expect DH to monitor his own alcohol use while I am in late pregnancy?

[fifitot]

I am 38 wks. We live at half hour drive from hospital. DH will drive us when the hour arrives - whenever that is.

DH likes a drink (probably a bit too much but that's a different thread!) but has been rationing himself for a couple of weeks in view of my pregnancy.

It is his birthday today, he's not gone out but has bought beer which if he drinks it all will easily put him over the limit. He has 'asked' me if he can have it. In all honesty I expect I won't go into labour tonight - but then again who knows?

I am so bloody mad at him. He is a grown man and should be able to make his own decision on this and I know what the decision should be.

I haven't drunk for 9 months, he is struggling for a couple of weeks. I am bloody fuming with him.

AIBU?

diddl you are a v v lucky lady. My dh will use any excuse including the KIDS birthdays never mind his own.

diddl me too. We did all our drinking in our twenties however, lots and lots of drinking.

OP how old is your dh?

Now we are in our early 40s and a bottle of red wine lasts a week then ends up in casserole or salad dressing!

He might grow out of it. We both did.

Nah - DH is in 40s. He just likes his beer and wine tbh. Probably has more than is recommended but not too much more over a week.

Can I just say in his defence - he didn't get drunk, just would have been over the limit. Which is why I was annoyed.

I just find, amongst alot of my friends, that their blokes just like drinking beer and will use any excuse as driedapricots indicates.

Most times it doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't get roaring drunk - which he doesn't.

Same here Anniebee-woken up in a few places & thought how did get here?

Maybe it´s upbringing?

As far as I know husband´s parents have never really had alcohol in the house.

We´ve got wine & a couple of crates of beer-it just takes years a bit to get through!

DH and I agreed from 38 weeks he would stay within the drink drive limit until DD was born. It couldn't have been less of a big deal.

i know the drinking annoyed me more after dd1 was born...he still didn't cut down and a few times i came back from a rare night out and he'd got through a bottle of wine whilst babysitting...(more than i'd had on the night out!) which i found unacceptable - plus hangovers that affected weekend 'family time' - mind you that's why he's now in AA..and that's a different thread i guess!

diddl if I never drink again, I reckon I drank enough in a 10-15 period to last a lifetime.

Party Hearty, that was my motto - plus you know - Irish. We took to the drink with far more enthusiasm than most! I found that dc and alcohol were a bad combo for me, and after I had dd at 30, I pretty much quit, by the time ds came along 5 years later I was done with hangovers completely. I just found them harder and harder to recover from.

Dh is a Londoner, and was brought up in practically an alcohol free home. He drinks very little, His twin sis is drunk 5 nights a week.

Weird.

OP it sounds like your dh isn't exactly a dipso, just really likes a beer or two. I still say he's BU tho' LOL!

Well he took me out for a very nice lunch today so I expect he feels guilty! He drove and didn't drink! Has - nice to have the moral highground.

good for you fifitot
and good luck with the birth

I cannot fathom the near as damn it addiction to alcohol for many people. I used to drink a reasonable amount when younger but it?s just not appealing these days. OH is similar, it?s not getting old before my time or being a boring old fart. If I felt like it (when not PG) or other half did then we would partake ad do socially, when out for a meal etc. but tends not to be to excess.

I am not chastising people for drinking regularly or large amounts just bemused as to the charm of it?

OH has had next to no booze since I became PG not that I have asked him to ? it?s just happened. I would imagine he won?t be drinking anything for the couple of weeks around the DD. It would be an extra stress for me at a particularly stressful time.

diddl and annie

I am 40 and my dh is 38 so I don't think it's an age thing... I have the same large social circle we had at 20 when we were all party animals. Clubbing til 4am turned into drinking (a LOT) of Rioja at dinner parties and staggering to our well paid professional jobs somewhere down the line!!

I always hope he will slow down but he doesn't. I am bad too but my goodness he is in another league. It's v annoying esp when you're pg. If I sound flippant it's because I've now given up trying to reason with him.

When I've been pregnant, DH switches to non-alcoholic beer from the time I get to 6 months pregnant. His reasoning was that you never know what can happen, and it wasn't just the drive to the hospital that I would need him for but also for the whole labour/delivery process, which requires him not only to be sober but awake.

Well I think going out & drinking is somehow different.

It´s the drinking at home that I´ve never really "got".

I don´t mean just a beer/wine or two in an evening-it´s the drinking so much that you couldn´t drive

Quite. Just heard the tale end of a conversation in the office with a lady whom had two children 20 years ago.

"Well I smoked and drank with my two - this 'it's bad for the baby' thing is a load of fucking bollocks if you ask me.