to expect their dad to feed them at a decent hour?

[whoingodsnameami]

Yet again, dc have come home from a day out with their dad ( we are divorced) to a roast beef dinner, and not had a single mouthful. Why? Because the idiot thought 3.30pm would be a good time to feed them. What am I supposed to say to him to get him to understand that they need to be fed at lunchtime? they go to bed at 7pm so doing tea later is really not an option, besides why should I throw out my routine because he cant follow a simple instruction.
ARRGGGHHHHHHHH

If this is a usual occurance, then take the night off cooking, offer them a snack before bed, and don't let it wind you up. Pick your battles...if this is the worst thing, then call yourself lucky!

It's not every week but often enough, last week I gave him some money and asked him to get their tea before he bought them back as I was going out that evening, he spent my money on getting them food at 2pm and they came home hungry and I had'nt prepared anything.

That must be really annoying. Maybe just plan a simple dinner for says they are with him, that they can have or not, and it won't cause waste or hassle. I'm sure it does your head in but it's not worth having arguments over...

DH was terrible with feeding the kids when they were toddlers/preschoolers. He's one of these people who forget to eat (and based on natural selection...you know...) therefore he'd forget to feed the kids when I was at work (used to work opposite shifts back then.)

Then they'd start whinning, he couldnt undrestand what was wrong, he'd yell at them, they's yell at him and I'd walk in in all this chaos 10 minutes before he had to leave for work and had to cook for them as we were skint and were only cooking from scratch (no microwave either)

Must be a man thing...

YANBU but if it happens a lot just view it as an opportunity not to cook on a Sunday :-)

YANBU, but we just plan simple tea (eg eggs) that can be easily expanded by adding beans/frozen peas. As EWF10 says, pick your battles.

I know it's not really a big deal, but irritating all the same, it will be soup or a take away for tea from now on.