to think ex might have some issues

[sevenkeystomysoul]

Was playing with DD in ex's garden today when I went to pick her up. Ex picked up ball and threw it at me really, really hard. I ignored it and a few minutes later, he hurled ball at my head. DD was faffing with something in the garden and didn't notice. I just said something facetious like 'you really need to let go of that anger, it's not healthy'. He just laughed. We tend to keep a distant relationship (i.e. I only engage with him on matters concerning DD and ignore enquiries into my life/him checking the wall calender 'surreptitiously' every time he picks up/drops off DD). It just seemed that he really did want to hurt me with the ball, which is strange, as he's not like that at all.

Could he be flirting with you?

He is like that though if he did it.

No really BOF, he is not like that at all. I have seen him at the peak of anger/frustration when we split two years ago and the closest he came to being 'like that' was shouting in my face, then crying. The man doesn't have a violent bone in his body, although he can be a vindictive, nasty bastard. Victoriascrumptious, ewww, I now feel unclean

what issues do you think he has. If not anger, or wanting to shag you, what else is there?

I don't know, resentment? That I've managed without him? He is extremely passive aggressive (I left, but he made it impossible for me to stay, and then blamed the entire break up on me). On one hand he tells me what a great job I'm doing with DD, and on the other he hands down parenting sermons.

ahhh P/A boiling over into aggression. Nothing worse than a p/a IMO. You just can't deal with them

Too true funnys, they are exhausting, they sap your energy, make you question yourself, and I am surrounded by them! Luckily DD (3) is just a bolshy toddler and I always know what she wants/needs, no PA behaviour going on there, just extreme pushiness!

aye, kids are a dream compared to a full on p/a. You feel sympathy, guilt, anger and then total hatred.

Keep away if you can and surround yourself with normal folk. Tis the only way.

You're so right funnys. Sadly the biggest pa's in my life are DD's daddy and grandma (my mum) so can't keep away. Dream of escaping with DD someday though, of course it will all be my fault if we do [hmmm]

You're so right funnys. Sadly the biggest pa's in my life are DD's daddy and grandma (my mum) so can't keep away. Dream of escaping with DD someday though, of course it will all be my fault if we do