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escort drivers

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Tiredmumno1 · 19/06/2010 20:52

Not sure where i sit on this so thought i would put it to you mnetters.

my friends dh is thinking of driving escorts around, he reckons it pays good money.

she doesnt feel very comfortable with this, i told her its just a job.

what opinions do you all have, so i can show her.

ta

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fyimate · 19/06/2010 21:01

Depends on how much trust they both have imo.
If my DP took that sort of job I wouldnt be too comfortable either but I trust him 100% and if it really did pay (very) well then I'd let him do it.
It's not worth putting unnecessary pressure on a relationship if it can be avoided.

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Tiredmumno1 · 19/06/2010 21:24

Good point fyimate

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herbietea · 19/06/2010 21:26

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SoBloodyTired · 19/06/2010 21:26

From personal experience I can say the roadholding isn't up to much in adverse weather conditions and in an accident they just fold. I'd be looking at Astras as an alternative.

LynetteScavo · 19/06/2010 21:28

Oh, not that sort of Escort driver.

TiggyD · 19/06/2010 21:30

If she doesn't feel comfortable doing it she shouldn't do it.

I'll do it! I need a job at the moment.

LynetteScavo · 19/06/2010 21:31

I wouldn't really want DH involved in the sex trade in any way.

The simplicity of an easy lay wouldn't be my concern.

I have an ex BF who used to do a lot of work for play boy, etc (on photo shoots) but I think that's a bit different. Or maybe that's why he's an ex.

BAFE · 19/06/2010 21:37

the thing is, he wouldn't be working for the escort, he'd be working for her pimp

TiggyD · 19/06/2010 21:43

Not all escorts have a pimp. Some are perfectly happily self employed.

LynetteScavo · 19/06/2010 21:57

But I would imagine if she has a driver, she would have a pimp...but then what do I know.

EricNorthmansmistress · 19/06/2010 22:06

I also wouldn't want my DH involved in the sex trade.

IsGraceAvailable · 20/06/2010 00:05

Wow, what an interesting question.

I wouldn't be too thrilled about earning money from the sex industry. Otoh, I am very keen for sex workers to be as safe as possible. I'm quite impressed to learn they have dedicated drivers; this must be working for an agency that takes care of its workers (not some drug-smuggling pimp, surely).

In my yoof I worked at nightclubs, which provided drivers for us to get home at 4am. I appreciated that, and am supposing the women's safety is, similarly, the main issue here.

You didn't say what your friend's problem with it is. If it's mainly a mistrust issue, I shouldn't think she needs to worry on that score! Nobody's going to give away what they can sell - or I'd be running a taxi service for builders, gardeners & decorators

BitOfFun · 20/06/2010 00:09

i don't think it is a sleazy shagger job, but I guess ethically it is not a job in a great area.

It depends why your friend feels uncomfortable. Is it because he will be working with escorts (ie attractive young women), or because she has a moral objection?

Ronaldinhio · 20/06/2010 00:11

I was hoping that this was a thread slagging off escort drivers
as I wanted to add that I have people who drive Rovers usually

Ronaldinhio · 20/06/2010 00:11

hate not have

thelunar66 · 20/06/2010 00:21

clicked on this thinking Ford Escort drivers.

Was gonna say... nice enough for the money, but front wheel drive is never gonna float my boat.

So lady escorts have drivers eh? I never knew that.

ShinyAndNew · 20/06/2010 00:30

I knew an escort, who worked willingly through an agency. She paid the agency around £15 per booking per hour and the driver around £10 per booking, per hour. The driver could get more than one booking per hour as he didn't have to stay outside the house the whole hour. He did have to be back on time though, so he couldn't take too many jobs.

It is the drivers job to ensure the girl leaves the house, safely and on time. So if the escort didn't leave on time and wasn't contactable by phone, the driver had to try and gain entry to the house.

Some escorts choose to work alone and will hire drivers for protection. In those cases the driver does have to stay close to the house/hotel and is still in charge of ensuring the girl leaves the house safely, except he doesn't have the back up of an agency cross referencing addresses/hotel bookings/credit card details etc.

I wouldn't be happy for DH to do it. But that's more because if anything went wrong he would piss pants sooner than he would act/think to call the police.

SolidGoldBrass · 20/06/2010 00:36

OK an escort who has access to a driver is likely to be a willing escort ie not a trafficking victim, otherwise the traffickers would not want to give her the chance to appeal for help ie by employing a driver who is not already part of their gang.
Also, the driver will not be offered free sex by the escort.
Acting as a driver for an escort is possibly a bit dodgy legally - a really vindictive plot could have him for 'living off immoral earnings' or at least try to.
And it is a moderately dangerous job in that criminally-inclined types may want to steal the takings or assault the girl: is the H in question a big bloke who can look after himself?

fyimate · 20/06/2010 08:21

Good point Solid, I was thinking that...

porcamiseria · 20/06/2010 09:49

i imagine the excorts will be too tired after a nigthts shagging to want to leap on him!

but as its likely tax free and there will be crim involvement, its very dodgy for that reason

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Tiredmumno1 · 20/06/2010 16:51

thanks for the responses.

i think she has a few insecurities so maybe it was because he would be driving young females around, she did also mention not liking the thought of him working in the sex industry.

i never even thought to mention to her if theres trouble he would have to help.

i will show her this thread, and see what she has to say.

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secunda · 20/06/2010 16:56

I wouldn't be happy because

a) I think, regardless of whether the escort has chosen to do it or not, if one woman can be 'bought' it gives off the impression that all women can be bought to some extent

b) really wouldn't be happy with him possibly having to get in fights with clients if they turned nasty to the girl

c) There's likely to be links to crime somewhere along the line, I just wouldn't want him being known by potentially dodgy people

But wouldn't especially be concerned that he would try to shag them

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 21/06/2010 00:32

SGB, he wouldn't get done for "living off immoral earnings". But he might like to consider the implications of the current NuLab definition of "trafficking".

seeyoukay · 21/06/2010 08:08

I don't think the kind of escorts he'll be driving are the "underworld" kind.

Think more money per hour than most people earn in a week kind of money.

Its highly unlikely he'll be fighting punters, the whole point of a driver is everyone know that at x time a car and driver (who can phone police) is waiting.

I wouldn't be concerned that he'd be unfaithful. Its like saying if he offered a lift to a plumber he would get a new kitchen for free. Plus on the way there they'll be pushed for time and on the way back she'll most likely be knackered

SolidGoldBrass · 21/06/2010 10:11

OLKN: Yes, that's a point. What I meant was the possibility that a spiteful or self-righteous copper or other individual might well at least try to get him done for something, whether trafficking or 'controlling prostitutes' even though it's really only higer-paying min0cabbing that he's doing.

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