To say stop or should I grit my teeth and get on with it?

[Angouleme]

I have ds 3 months and in the past 5 months have bought house, moved in with mil, coped with nb, sanded floors, painted walls, supervised workers, run around buying paint, tiles, sinks etc, trying to organise wedding and christening, and generally sort out problems. All this in a foreign language. Last night I think I reached my limit. Do I carry on ( house needs probably another 2 weeks) or do I say enough is enough?

I don't understand the question. What happens if you don't "carry on"?

So you are living with your mil whilst renovating your new house?

What do you mean when you say enough is enough - you mean stop the renovations and move back into your house?

geeze you have been busy - have a huge gold star!!

Nothing wrong with a period on consolidation in my book. Other personalitites would think crack on till it's done. If your knackered take a break.

you're! (I know that!)

I suppose I mean have a break, seem to havelost perspective and don't know if I'm whinging or if I'm justified in saying stop. If I take a break it means more time with mil who can be lovely but very controlling ie those lights are horrible, you can't hang pictures there etc etc.

I was in a similar position six years ago, when renovating our house, loads of problems, planning permission refused, builders backing out at the last minute etc. And we did a lot of the work ourselves. When dd1 was born we stayed with mil but not for more then a couple of weeks, I had to get back to my own house even though the kitchen was in the basement and half the house a building site.

Once it was all done it was so worth it, and it will be for you as well.

Sorry not explaining myself very clearly. Brain addled. Think I just need to be told get on with it.

Blimey - well done!! You've coped with some incredibly stressful things over the last 5 months [gross understatement alert], but it sounds like you're on the home stretch.

Take a day (or few days) off - have a "you" day. Maybe even leave DS with MIL for the day if you can? Breath deeply, get some fresh air, sleep and relax.

Then come back fighting and finish it all off. You'll feel a LOT better.

p.s. is there a DP around to help?

Have a day off - go somewhere with your DC (or hide in bed and lock the door and sleep, whichever works for you!)

Then think you only have two weeks left - and you will have a gorgeous lovely home which will stand testament to the fact that you actually are super woman to have achieved it all.

Dp is here otherwise there is no way I'd be stayin with his mother! He works long hours and finishes at 7.30 most nights. He's also stressed so I feel like I've been supporting him ( not easy to move back home) bfing baby and don't want to worry my mum back in the uk.

I think what finally finished me off last night was well meaning relatives telling me I needed to get ds into a routine. I would love to be able to, well a bit more structure anyway, but it's impossible atm. That and a few comments about weight/ appearance. Just what you need after 4 hours sleep and a day painting beams!

Why arrange everything all at once though?

I must be lazy, I'd never organise a christening, wedding and move house with a three month old

i dont get why you are making it so hard for yourself. just look after the baby and get the house sorted.

Weddings and christenings can be done once you're moved in surely??

Wedding very small, just witnesses, mainly for financial ( tax breaks better start of July) and legal reasons ( we're protected if anything happens to dp) that and we love each other! Although I feel no need to prove this after living with mil.
Christening - all my family are coming end of July and apparently we need to 'prepare' the christening with the priest. I'm not religious but dp comes from big catholic family.
You're right I need to stop thinking of everyone else and concentrate on ds, who is very happy baby fortunately for me, and finishing the house which will be beautiful however much it looks like a building site.

Dp and mil could organise the christening as they make up the religious element in your family

Just want to thank everyone who replied ( can't see names for some reason). Slept lots and feel much better, was having a very low day yesterday. It's amazing what sleep can do!