but why does all the fecking crap in this house become mine to sort out?

[duchesse]

Fecking fed up to the back teeth (and that's a long way, as I still have all my wisdom teeth) with sorting out my nearly adult children's crapping clothes for them. My son is so bloody useless despite nearly 15 years of teaching, encouraging, cajoling, nagging and finally verbal brutality chiding that it drives me to despair.

It would NEVER occur to my husband to clear out any of the children's wardrobes or sort them out for outgrown clothes, nor is he willing to assert himself and make them do it. So I become big bad mummy who shouts and nags. Frankly I feel like binning the bloody lot.

What? You mean the wardrobe fairy doesn't do it?

Leave ds to do his own- when he runs out of stuff he'll learn the hard way. Ask dh to sort 1 dc, you do t'other, and do baby's things as you go (ie- eek, that sleepsuit no longer fits, straight into outgrown bag after washing)

Don't do it.
don't buy them new clothes. Tell them as their wardrobes/room is full they obviously don't need anymore.
go hardcore. If they know youwill end up doing it they will justwait for you to do it.

Alas, my youngest doesn't care that she's wandering around in clothes two sizes too small (she's nearly 13 and I recently fished a few favourite age 7-8 items from her wardrobe while she was at a sleepover), second receives a clothing allowance and on the whole is pretty good at sorting hers, oldest recently got several large bin bags full of clothes from a friend and put them all straight into his wardrobe, so that he can last for about a month without needing to put his bloody washing in the bloody basket. Instead he carpets the floor of his room to a depth of about a foot with dirty clothes, until he decides to put them all into the wash at once, thereby generating a week's worth of washing by himself. I really wish I could think of a good way of making him do his own washing. Do you think I should start throwing it back into his room from the washing basket? Or would that be excessively puerile?

When I say "youngest" that I have yet again forgotten the baby, whose clothes I am indeed sorting as she grows out of them. Not that she's grown out of much yet, still in age 3-6 months.

File 13.
Unlucky for some.

Bin everything in a plastic bag. Seal it and put it in the back garden.

He'll look in a week/month.

Then you explain how the washing machine works.

If you don't have a tumble drier; then you explain the process of forward planning.

A rod for another Woman's back either way.

Just dump the stuff. He's disrespecting you.

duchesse
I feel your pain. DD (13) is a mix of your youngest and oldest. I have thrown back clean clothes into her room that she has put in the wash basket unworn.
Mind you, she did iron her own t shirt this morning, so maybe I am getting somewhere. Mind you, i had already ironed said t-shirt once.

he's 15 - if it winds you up, it's time to leave him to it. If he's not already, make him do own clothes washing etc too as he's not respecting all the effort it takes - time to learn this stuff.

just leave it then!

It's worse than that, he's actually nearly 17!