my SIL's are ganging up on me

[weetabixwhiner]

Late last year my MIL died of cancer, she was lovely. In Jan I had a text of one of my SILs asking me if I would do the race for life in honour of MIL.{tshirts with pic on, etc.} I am not fit so I was doubtful. Months later another one mentioned and joked she wasn't fit and she would walk round it, I thought that's ok I could do that. And now last week at another social event we were at, they asked me if I had registered. I said No, when is it? [It's today.] I said Well thanks for letting me know the details! It seemed as if they knew all about it but failed to keep me updated. I asked how much they had raised for the cause and one SIL says she wasn't doing it for that reason! None of them have raised money. That got my back up cos isn't that the point? Having tshirts made has cost them. I have refused to do it on the basis:
A. They didn't let me know the details
B. They didn't think raising money was the point.
c. They are all size 10's!!!![me not!]
D. Are they hoping to get their mugs in a local paper.[vanity]

I loved my MIL dearly but I think she would of thought this was a stupid idea. AIBU?

I think you are overthinking it tbh, are younot capable fo googling to find out the date yourself? But they are unreasonable for not getting sponsored. WHy do it otherwise?

And having just read your thread title, ganging up on you? How old are you all, 12? I think there are deeper issues here, it's notable that you mention they are a size 10 and you are not

Well there are 4 of them and anybody size 16 is going to look humongous next to them. But that's beside the point,NO MONEY raised.

I imagine they failed to keep you updated because it sounds like you never said yes or no either way. In your post you sound extremely reluctant so I would imagine they thought "well we've asked, that's all we can do". There is nothing to stop you from having found out the date for yourself.

Yes its generally about raising money for cancer research, but plenty of people do it just to show they can and in memory of a loved one. Your reluctance probably upset them as it was their mother they were going to honour.

I know that if I've asked one of my sisters something and get a vague answer I may ask again but after that I won't bother.

And now you are going to tell me I need the excercise!!!

mini's right - get over yourself

Weetabixwhiner, you are the only one who keeps going on about your size/their size, etc. I've done Race for Life before (and Moonwalk too). I'm a size 12 and have seen some very very large women doing both races, all put effort into it and did just fine. Size is an excuse. Once you are doing the race, no-one is watching you.

I must say I find it all a bit 'late in the day', I would say I was there when the shit hit the fan. When MIL was ill, some of these hardly ever showed their faces til it was all over. I am a bit miffed by this.

why did your SILs not do it themsleves?

and as you said yes, and then did nothing else about it, you were a bit remiss, although SILs perhaps should have checked you were fully committed before getting t shirts printed

dress size is a red herring

they are probably a bit embarassed they've not got any sponsorship, but you could have , if you said yes, actually been a grown up and found the detials etc or said, no i won't dfo it, but i'll make a donation

And as a former fatty, let me tell you how upsettign it is to be on the other side of size comments. I was a size 18 and hated goign out tbh. Now I'm a size 10, you wouldn't believe the amount of 'god I can't go out with you, you skinny bitch' comments I get from 'friends'
If you have a problem with your size then do something about it instead of using theirs as an excuse to stop you doing things with them.