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Neighbour mimicking my distressed two year old

37 replies

dribbleface · 18/06/2010 08:54

First AIBU so be gentle!

We have had on going problems with our neighbours, they use our drive without even mentioning it and things like that. It all came to a head a few months ago, the air was cleared and things have been better since then.

Last night my 2 year old woke up crying at 12pm, I went into him straight away as its unusual for him to wake in night now (we did have some issues with his sleep when he was much younger but I never left him to cry in his room). I settled him down, left him, all was fine, I popped to the loo and he started crying again. I went back in and resettled him, and could hear my neighbour mimicking his crying and calling our mummy.

Is this not a bit odd and and a tad unreasonable? To be honest I want to say something but don't think that will help!

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fustyarse · 18/06/2010 08:57

your neighbour sounds like a twat.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 18/06/2010 08:58

yabu

you prolly only heard because windows were open and the neighbours mean no harm by defusing their own tension at being disturbed

sympathy because night wakings are grim

CoronaAndLime · 18/06/2010 09:03

Your neighbour is a twat.

YANBU. It would have pissed me off.

flootshoot · 18/06/2010 09:05

YANBU to be upset, it does sound a bit mean, no-one likes to see their child being mocked. But it's not like he was doing it to your son's face so I would let it go, like boysrealikedogs said, they're probably just venting at being woken.

Personally I wouldn't say anything unless you felt there was something malicious (i.e. them doing it loudly enough to WAKE your son, which I would have thought was highly unlikely!

Original poster
dribbleface · 18/06/2010 09:19

Hadn't considered it was a way of him defusing his own tensions. Think I might have not felt so strongly if I didn't already think he was an idiot!

Most likely won't say anything (I hate confrontation)

Oh well, only saving grace is they recently got married and from conversations we had (before it all got silly) was that they were hoping to start a family soon. Their time will come!

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Again · 18/06/2010 09:22

I could understand saying 'ffs!' if you were tired and fed up, not mimicking a child crying and calling out mummy. It's very weird behaviour.

Greensleeves · 18/06/2010 09:25

don't say anything, you'll just feel like an idiot and it will give them something else to laugh about

sympathy, my neighbour is a complete tube steak and I've heard him mimicking ds2 as well

ignore, rise above, etc

DinahRod · 18/06/2010 09:39

Depends...

Maybe he was saying to his wife, "Can't you hear that "Mummy, Mummy" noise?"

Wife, "No. You're being a twat, go to sleep"

Colliecross · 18/06/2010 09:46

Whatever is a tube steak?

Greensleeves · 18/06/2010 10:31

um

it's a willy

Colliecross · 18/06/2010 10:37

thanks

YANBU but telling your tube steak neighbour that you heard him won't do any good as I presume he meant you to hear him.

booyhoo · 18/06/2010 10:39

your neighbour is an adult? what a knob, babies cry. end of.

ZacharyQuack · 18/06/2010 10:41

Mimic them next time they have sex.

"Is it in yet?"
"What the hell is that?"
"Just get on with it"
"Is that it?"
"Mummy Mummy"

booyhoo · 18/06/2010 10:45

really though, what sort of immature being is he that he takes a child's crying personally enough to mimmick it like that.

i am stumped. if OH did that i would be taking him to the GP.

pigsinmud · 18/06/2010 10:49

It would upset be, but no way would I say anything. He's perfectly entitled to cry like a baby if he wants to. He sounds like an idiot.

Original poster
dribbleface · 18/06/2010 11:31

Thanks everyone, glad its not just me!

Love the idea ZacharyQuack!

I won't say anything as your right he did mean me to hear him.

Will let him get on with it I think.

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SolidGoldBrass · 18/06/2010 11:34

Well it could have been spiteful taunting, but it could equally have been exasperation at being woken up and possibly the fact that you don't like this bloke means you put the worst possible spin on anything he does.
SO TBH you are best off ignoring it. It;s not like your DS would have understood the mockery even if he'd heard.

Just13moreyearstogo · 18/06/2010 11:35

He obviously didn't get his own needs met as a toddler, unlike your lucky son. Pity him.

Oblomov · 18/06/2010 12:21

SGB, but neighbour IS mocking her. isn't he. how can she put a bad spin on that ?

BoysAreLikeDogs · 18/06/2010 12:33

but he is doing it in his own home, he wasn't standing in the road confronting the family was he.

I maintain that folks can say what they like in the privacy of their own home

Perhaps OP could think about soundproofing or moving the child's bed or switching bedrooms

whoopstheregoesmymerkin · 18/06/2010 12:39

YANBU he is a twunt, but you do need to let it go. On this occasion anyway . Save stress for the bigger stuff.

rewardgirl · 18/06/2010 12:39

I agree - probably just frustrated at being woken up. Like you say, his time will come....

V childish behaviour though and he'll probably feel silly enough in the morning when he's feeling more sane.

Maybe just apologise for disturbing him when you next see him? Sweetly mention that you heard him and was really sorry that his sleep was disturbed etc.
He'll feel like a TOTAL knob then... [sneaky evil grin emoticon]

geraldinetheluckygoat · 18/06/2010 12:40

the neighbour is indeed a "Tube Steak" LOL!
I would have been annoyed at this too.

zandy · 18/06/2010 12:40

You could ask him, sympathetically, if he is ok as you heard him crying last night and wondered if he was hurt.

rewardgirl · 18/06/2010 12:42

Zandy - pmsl