to be pissed off with DH for getting me up at 5am - again?

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DH got home from work last night at 10pm - he's working really hard at the moment and also has a 1 1/2 hour (each way) commute. He said he had to be up v. early this morning & set his alarm for 5am.

Next morning, alarm goes off (v. loud), he presses snooze and goes back to sleep. I, of course, am now wide awake as always. (I wouldn't be so arsey about this but it happens at least twice a week and I'm knackered).

The alarm continues for the next hour with him saying 'I'm getting up in a second' when I nudge him because he's snoring so loud.

6.15am - DS1 gets up, starts jumping on my head and squeezing my neck & requesting stories. He only ever does this to me, allowing DH to carry on snoring.

7am - I get up, shower etc, having already been awake for 2 hrs. Sort all DCs out, get to school, childminder etc, & go to work.

8am - DH finally gets out of his pit, dresses, goes to work.

I should probably be more sympathetic as he's working so hard but I also work, plus do all childcare, run the house etc. I had to bite my tongue this morning so I didn't snap his head off and restrain myself from throwing the effing alarm out of the sodding window.

Views please?

Tell him if he ignores his alarm for more than 10 minutes again, you'll assume he's too tired to get up and reset it for 8.

Why does he set his alarm for 5,but not get up till 8

That's ridiculous, if he isn't going to get up then why not set it for later, even half 6 would be an improvement!

Anything before 6am I always find very depressing - even when I have to get up for something exciting like a holiday. Hence my alarm is set for 6.01am. Tell him to sleep in another room!

You are not being the slightest bit unreasonable. I'd tell him that if he ignores it twice in future, you'll turn it off.

YANBU

DF gets up at 5, but his alarm goes off once, then his phone alarm
both within 5 mins.

i would kill him if he tried what your dh did.

YANBU. My DH would have awoken to find the alarm clock had been inserted somewhere painful. Sideways.

Perhaps if he wasn't sleeping in till 8 he would be getting to work and home at a reasonable time.

YANBU

I'm with 5DollarShake, reset it if he ignores it or hits snooze twice.

Thanks for reassuring me that I'm not being a total shitbag. Would love to change DH's alarm but it's on his Blackberry and I'd have to read the manual to find out how it works! I told him today that the next time he does it I'll stick his frigging phone up his arse - he took this remarkably well and actually apologised . (Unfortunately DH's motto is the same as my late Dad's - 'Never apologise, never confess').

Going to bed now for a peaceful night's sleep - he's working away!

Tell him if he wants his alarm to go off at 5am to take it downstairs with him as he needs to sleep on the sofa!

Next time, pull the duvet off him and insist that he gets up. Keep talking to him until he's wide awake.

He's not working that hard if he's staying i bed until 8.

knick the duvet and tell him to take the blackberry away "NOW"

OK, you know this man and I don't so you will know which of these is more likely -

He means to get up early but can't bear to, so hes full of good intentions he can't follow through on and this is generally the way he is but his good qualities make up for it.

He's a selfish tosspot who is making sure you are awake early so you do all the morning dealing-with-DC stuff while he has a lie in, and then he can still tell himself he's Working SO Hard and Gets No Rest and therefore is entitled to do fuck all round the house in the evening.

YANBU

Either get up or dont, it is not hard is it?

Dont get me wrong if he got up 10-15 mins after alarm ok, but 3 hours is not on. and quite frankly stinks.

I appreciate he is tired, but still a little consideration is all that is needed

You may need to manual to reset the blackberry... but do you need the manual to find the off switch...?

I would kill him

Mind you - and I couldn't beat him up as it was an accident - DS dad once left his farking Blackberry at our house, and its alarm went off at 6am. ANd went off again, and again, and again as first I couldn't find the cunting thing then I couldn't work out how to switch it off.
This was before DS started school, so getting up time was generally around 8.30...

Throw it out the window

YANBU. Fair enough if he got up at that time, but ignoring it for 3 hours is beyond the pale. Put an alarm in the little one's room for 5am, tell them that they have the Very Important Job of waking daddy in the morning and they must make sure he gets up, then bugger off to the spare room. That'll learn him.

YANBU. XP used to do this. Set it for 5:30 then keep putting it on snooze for 30 mins and sleep through it so I had to wake him up .

My Dh has done this before. All good intentions of getting up early, but just can't do when it comes to it resulting in me being wide awake and very p'd off.

I threw the alarm out the window and it happily carried on snoozing on the front lawn.

DH does this. Drives me mad! He seems to think of the series of snoozes as an important part of his night's sleep

My DH does this all the time. Is it a man thing? YANB.