towards my neighbour's children

[IHeartKittensAndWine]

Every time I see upstairs neighbour she says something about our having a backgarden. This morning she came right out with it in front of her DCs (both school age, I'm guessing infants) and actually asked if they could have access to it over the summer holidays. I said know, and she was very put out. Am I being unreasonable given
a)There is a lovely and very child friendly park a minute's walk away
b) I divide my week between working from home and commuting, so they'd either be disturbing me or I'd have to leave them with a set of keys
c) The only access to the backgarden is via our bedroom.
d) It's my garden - and where I live in London you pay over to have one - and I don't want to share it.

All I said to her was "I'm very sorry, I don't think it's appropriate" but am happy to give these reasons if she asks again. Just curious as to whether people think AIBU or what they'd do in the same situation.

(BTW TTC on hold for the moment and don't have DCs yet so not even like they'd be looking out enviously over other children playing in it, unless I have my DNs over)

Another YANBU from me. Can't get over the cheek of her asking, and being put out when you said no.

Yanbu!!! she has a cheek to ask, unbelievably rude!

Thanks guys... have to admit that I actually expected a flaming/at least a couple of YABUs. Feel much more confident to say no if she asks again

YANBU.

YANBU

I like kids playing in the garden and if there were kids upstairs without a garden I'd probably offer them the use of it sometimes (depending on if they seemed to be 'nice' kids, that wouldn't deliberately destroy the garden), but it was unreasonable of her to ask and downright bloody cheeky to do so as they'd have to access it through your house!!

Just remember 'No' is a sentence - you don't need to explain yourself!

the audacity

well - I'm going to slightly go against the flow here.

YANBU unreasonable to say no, and I don't think you should have to give any reasons other than just a "no".

However, I don't think it's unreasonable of her to ask * Disclaimer - only reasonable of her to ask if she asked politely and in a non-assuming way.

* DISCLAIMER NO.2

I've just read the OP properly again and seen that she was put out when yo usaid no.

In that case you YANBU AT ALL

YABU

only joking, you know yanbu.

cheeky mare. leave your dirty knickers inthe garden and they'll soon go off the idea.

my ex neighbour who had a much smaller garden than me thought i would just love it if they CUT THROUGH my fence so they had constant free access to my garden. i knew them and their little one was freindly with my ds so after the initial shock of it i thought "what the hell, teh kids can play together." it backfired on them though because my ds was constantly going in and standing at their back door looking in at them. but not before they started using the gap in the fence to bring their bin out the front, passing my bin and not offering to take it with them. i made an effort to distance myself and came home from work one day to find my fence restored (in a rather slapdash manner). tehy moved shortly after, thank goodness.