sexism...alive and well and in MY life

[thisishowifeel]

I had a call from a client looking for a recomendation for a bloke singer...So I passed on the details of this bloke, who got the gig.

He has sent an email to my estranged husband, thanking him for the gig.

For fucks sake!!!!!!! Don't I fucking exist?I got him the gig, not estranged husband.

Won't be recommending him again..............twat.

Thank you, that feels better.

not sure I see the sexism, unless there is more too it. does the other chap know you are split from your husband?

How did he have your ex's email address?

I mean he knows he spoke to you, surely?

He sounds a bit odd TBH.

He should have thanked me...I got him the job, yes he has my email, and is an fb friend of mine. He knew that the recomendation had come from me, no one else.

Sexist I think because I don't appear to exist, but h does.Wether we are together or not is irrelevant. I'm sick of being invisible.

Maybe IABU, and need to calm down a bit.

Absolutely understand where you are coming from. I Purchased a buy to let, I arranged the finance, I took out insurance, I paid for it. The insurance is due for renewal the agent phone and asked for Mr said he will call back when he is home. Told him to get lost. DH purchased an aqua vac on line and they keep phoning to sell a warranty to Mrs. Obviously the little woman in only capable of worrying about housework. Makes me so mad.

what a nob, does he think your ex has more influence in the music industry than you and is kissing his arse?

Alive and well in my life too. DH and DS were chuckling away at 'On the Buses' the other night

Well, I was the one that was asked to suggest someone.

MY client. Who I work for regularly. Yes MEMEME!!!!!!!!

Maybe he does think that h has more influence, but I still think it's cos I'm only a girl. H calls all girls singers "shrieking hags". Charming eh?

I've had this before, I was working in a club one evening and the keyboard player was astonishingly rude to me, and then at half time, came and actually apologised for his rudeness, saying that usually girls are crap and have bad attitudes, and he hadn't expected me to be any good, which is why he'd been so horrid at first.

I'll bet Madonna doesn't have this!

Well loads of strangers think that because I'm Dr Beanlet, I'm a man. That makes me VERY annoyed (as does being referred to as Mrs DH).

I have encountered the little woman syndrome quite a lot too.....My DH works in a male oriented world and does earn a good wage, however when we mariied i bought the serious money into the household from good investments and inheritance etc. However, whenever we have any major building work done or buy 'big' items, people always ask for DHs 'permission'before agree contracts etc
It got so bad that when i went to buy our latest family car the knob at the showroom ( insisted on calling my DH to check it was OK!! needless to say i went elsewhere. I then had a JUlia Roberts moment when i went back and asked the tosspot if he remembered me and by the way, exactly how much commision had he lost out on?!!

minkulus Love what you did with the car salesman!

Reminds me a bit of when we were buying our first CD player (OK this is going back a fair few years when CD was quite new technology and a decent player was a reasonably large outlay for us) We bought a magazine which explained all the relevant terminology and what we should be looking for. We then went to a specialist Hi-fi shop to see what they had. The salesman was a typical hi-fi freak but he clearly thought this was something only a man could understand - every time I asked him a technical question he paused, looked a bit stunned, then answered the question looking at DH as if he had asked it.

We didn't buy from there.

I remember when my DP took a Ford Ka out for a test drive. While I waited at the garage, the salesman's colleague asked me if the vehicle was for me!! No! Firstly I prefer to drive a proper sized vehicle that doesn't look like a shoe, and secondly, surely I would be test driving it myself!

The car smelt of dog anyway so he didn't buy it.

It's the way we seem to be able to activate our invisibility cloak that really gets me.

minkulus Nice one.

I was trying to buy a tv a couple of years ago after ours had stopped working. Wanted one that could get digital tv obviously. Guy in the Richer Sounds shop was very dismissive trying to flog a large LCD tv that didn't have digital and was more expensive than the more up to date version in John Lewis that did have digital.

Asked him why I shouldn't get digital and he started to blabber on about how standards were changing and digital satellite was coming and so digital would be obsolete

Completely ignoring the fact that I had specifically asked for digital and knew that it is likely to be around for plenty of years to come, certainly more than the analogue only that he was saying was better. THink he was just desparate to offload an analogue tv.

But needless to say, he wouldn't even show me what I wanted so I gave up and went to John Lewis instead. And haven't ever been back despite it being very close to where I live and often having good prices. TV not portable to do the Julia ROberts thing but would have loved to

Now, if only the tv had waited a couple of weeks longer before giving up it would have been the January sales and not peak expensive-before-christmas time. But at least we had a tv to watch at christmas - and dp is pleased because the one we wanted was out of stock so we had to get the bigger one.

I like football. My step-dad, who is not generally a huge sexist, will not talk with me about it. He looks at me blankly if I raise it, directs all his comments to my DH, and is perpetually surprised that I know anything. He also LOVES it if I make a mistake with a player's name or something. Other men also totally ignore me when I attempt to join in 'their' conversation about football. My step-mother's sleazy sexist brother-in-law, in fact, forced me to explain the off side rule in front of a whole room of people and then started to try to trip me up as I did it (perfectly, I might add). Tosser.

PS, my BIL also thinks that any woman who can play sports is necessarily an ugly, unattractive 'man-girl', and once refused to allow me to punt us along the river, despite the fact that I live in Cambridge and can actually punt. He actually looked scared as I tried to pick up the pole. He nearly fell in when he did it . He is a tosser too.

Dp and I were out walking one day.I was ahead of him and quite clearly carrying the map.

Some blokes waited until I had gone past and then asked DP for directions.

I felt so insulted!

I was in a working mens club in Dewsbury and could not be served at the bar, because I was a woman....I had to ask a man to get my drink.....with my money though. I hope it's closed now, wankers.

Well my dad has just joined a men only club! Refused to speak to him all day. To be fair he says it's only for networking purposes , but I told him that it's irrelevant why he's joined, he is helping to perpetuate the bloody places.

How is this even legal, I mean they couldn't open a whites only club for example - to me this is just as bad!

Oooh this is similar to something that irritated me the other day.

I sorted out life insurance for us. I filled in the forms. I am insured life one. The money is coming out of my account. I am first on the address / account as I am Dr Peppa - so the account is Dr Peppa and DH.

DH gets a letter in the post the other day - addressed purely to him. It included the £50 of vouchers we got for taking out the policy.

This doesnt actually matter in the slightest - but the money should have come to me not him and certainly not him alone!