Went to rhyme time at library with friend, her DS (3) and my DS (2).
They were having a great time and afterwards went to play in kids area, looking at books together, playing on the toy fire engine.
Older kid appears (looked about 5/6) and stands grimly staring at our two playing. I notice him but ignore it. He then runs full speed at the fire engine and jumps in shoving both our DS's when he is trying to get in. I went over and asked him not to shove as the boys were playing but he could play too as there was plenty room. He was not interested in this and seemed to want to just push the boys.
We moved away from the fire engine to another area to do jigsaws and puzzles. The older boy follows. He is just staring at our boys and standing waiting for them to do whatever they are doing next and he jumps in and kicks the jigsaw pieces. Friends DS runs off crying. My friend is just watching rolling her eyes and tries to distract her DS. Older boy runs after him then stops and stares at him while friend tries to distract her DS.
I look around to see if older boy's parent/whoever is nearby. I can't see anyone who seems to be watching him or looking out for him.
I take my DS away to do something else. Older boy runs over and stands right next to me and DS staring. I ask him if he is looking for something to play with. There is no response as he just stares at my DS (who is now driving a small car along the floor and up onto a small chair). Older boy then begins to attempt to push over my DS so I get in between with some pathetic attempt to say "I don't like the way you are playing" so I am on my knee between older boy and DS when he then shoves me full force, I fall and DS is then given a full shove and he falls face first into the wheels on the buggy. I let out a shout as I thought DS was going to be hurt but luckily the buggy rolled back and he just got up, looked at the boy and carried on playing.
The older boy then ran off kicking over another child's lego tower and I saw a woman sitting on the floor reading a book who appeared to be with him. I was absolutely livid and filled with rage. I was about to head over to the woman and make a complete scene but then stopped for a moment thinking "Ok, we are in a library, other mums and toddlers are here who prob are in the same situation hoping they just leave and they prob don't want a scene".
I just made some remarks about what had happened loudly (how sad is that) and just left it. I was thinking that the woman with him may be his mum and maybe she is used to him acting like this and it would ruin her day if some other mum came ranting over.
On the other hand I am now so angry with myself for letting some older child push my DS over in the library and I didn't even say anythin to his mother. I let it happen. I am supposed to protect my child and I just let a 5 yo push him over.
Sriously, I prob ABU but I just wanted to post on here so I can get some perspective. I suspect this happens a lot but I don't know if I handled it very well.
My friends just kind of said it is best to let it go as no one was hurt and kids do stuff like this all the time. Yes, DS is PFB. I just am not sure how I should handle this kind of thing...