to think my dh should be able to keep quiet?

[RobynLou]

I'm pg, only about 8/9 weeks. We agreed that we wouldn't tell anyone until after the scan, we told people early last time and I wished we hadn't.
He told someone he works with and tonight he went out for a drink and told his friend, who's promised not to tell anyone except his girlfriend.....
AIBU to expect him to keep schtum? we agreed, and I've managed not to tell anyone, despite having to disguise the fact I'm exhausted and sick all the time, and not drinking.

obv it's nice he's so excited, but I'm fuming! and he just doesn't appear to realise it could be a problem, because this friend will 'only' tell his gf it doesn't count apparently, but she could mention it to someone, who mentions it to someone else etc etc.......

grrrrrrrrrrrrr

I shall take the lack of replies as a universal conclusion that IANBU

Perhaps a little unreasonable, he's excited and he's human cut him some slack.

YANBU - tell him it's lovely that he's excited but (god forbid) if anything happened it would be awful to have to bat away people's questions

Plus, getting to tell people is so much fun, you don't want him to steal all the thunder!

YANBU-he´s an adult, not a 3yr old who can´t help but blab.

So, he´s told 2 people, one of whom will tell another....

We waited until past the 12 wk scan with both-it was great having a secret just between us.

The day we found out "for sure" with first I managed to not tell my best friend when she said something along the lines of "it´ll be your turn soon"

Oh-congratulations btw!

Doh, how terrible of me - congratulations!

thanks, housewife - I cut him slack when he told his workmate, as that person doesn't really know anyone who could tell someone which would get back to family, and I made it clear then that I wasn't happy but wouldn't make a big deal of it....
but this friend he told yesterday and his gf are part of a big social group which includes family members, now I'm worrying it'll somehow get round to family before we've announced to them, which makes me think we'll just have to give in and tell them now just in case (if mil found out other people knew before her it would be me that got it in the neck, not dh...)

It's so frustrating, I spent a whole day disguising feeling sick and having to actually directly answer questions about when we were planning another from one of my oldest friends last week.

Really wanted to keep it quiet this time.

Congratulations........

but I do hope that no-one you know posts on MN otherwise you could have just told them as well .

exH and I agreed we would tell no-one until I was 12 weeks with DS3............his sister was an absolute star and did the whole " that's great news" act very well when we "told" her together

If it went wrong last time, he's dumb to have done this. I would cut him no slack, as you had agreed, and he knew he was breaking that.

Quite agree YANBU - for all you know, the gf could have posted it on FaceBook by now, or sent a text to someone. You've had a harder time not letting anyone know, and he goes and blows it.

Great he's excited, but surely that could be better shown by spending more time with you, doing things (eg renting some DVD you have wanted to watch) that you'd like to do, and calming his wish to 'spread the word'.

Congratulations, by the way, and hope all goes well.