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To think that there's something wrong with dh's attitude to tea?

43 replies

PrettyCandles · 15/06/2010 23:17

Dh won't let me make his tea because he says my tea is utterly dire. I think it's OK.

He won't let me leave the teaspoon in the cup, says he can taste it.

Yet he'll reheat his tea in the microwave!

Surely that's a disgusting thing to do to tea?

OP posts:
MrsRhettButler · 15/06/2010 23:19

yea cause it gets a scum on the top when you do that... eeeeew
not sure how he can taste the spoon

usualsuspect · 15/06/2010 23:20

Tell him to make his own tea

RobynLou · 15/06/2010 23:23

oooh now I don't like it when a sppon is left in the cup, I swear I can taste it.....

wouldn't EVER reheat a cuppa in a microwave either though - yuck!

I'm insanely fussy about how I make my own tea, but if someone else is making it I'll accept anything graciously, even if it is like lukewarm dishwater.....

bran · 15/06/2010 23:24

There's no accounting for tea tastes.

I used to work with a woman who always whinged about the tea that I made, she said it was too weak. One day, to teach her a lesson, I made an extra strong cup. I used 3 teabags and let it brew for 5 min mashing the bags occasionally with a spoon. When it was strong enough to stand a spoon in I removed the bags (squeasing them out as I did), added her usual milk and sugar and brought it out to her.

I was hoping for a look of disgust when she tasted it, perhaps even having trouble swallowing it, but she took one sip and said "Oooh bran, that's a lovely cup of tea".

Rockbird · 15/06/2010 23:26

No, no way. Life is too short to drink bad tea, so people either have to make it the way I like it or I don't bother (I'm always polite, except to family!). At work when someone's doing a round and they ask if I want one, I always say yes but end up getting up and making it myself.

DH, my mother and my SIL make it well. My brother's tea is shite and he knows it

Your DH is spot on.

sharbiebowtiesarecool · 15/06/2010 23:27

I agree you have to make your own to get it just right.

QualityTime · 15/06/2010 23:39

You are both wrong. tea is ming.

Original poster
PrettyCandles · 15/06/2010 23:41

Those of you who are fussy about the taste and therefore have to make your own, would you drink tea that had been reheated in the microwave?

It's not the making that's the issue, but the appalling treatment of the tea afterwards!

OP posts:
bumpybecky · 15/06/2010 23:45

I had microwaved tea this afternoon. It went cold while I was mopping the kitchen floor, thus confirming housework is a bad idea. I remembered why microwaving tea is a bad idea.

sharbiebowtiesarecool · 15/06/2010 23:49

no yuk

Rockbird · 15/06/2010 23:50

If I was absolutely desperate for tea then I might but under normal circs I wouldn't touch microwaved tea.

moondog · 15/06/2010 23:56

Tea.
It's the business eh?
Even sounds soothing.

Kewcumber · 15/06/2010 23:59

ooh bran I didn't know we'd worked together..

Marjee · 16/06/2010 00:08

Microwaved tea sounds disgusting! I'm quite fussy about how I make my tea though. I sometimes reheat coffee in the microwave, its not that bad

NiandraLaDes · 16/06/2010 00:15

Hmm, defo could not leave the spoon in the cup. But also could never, ever drink microwaved tea. In that respect, your DH is being most unreasonable

Recipe for the perfect cup of tea (IMHO) is as follows:
Brew tea (in teapot) until as strong as tar. Pour (into giant mug). Add milk and 2 sugars. Stir, stir and stir again, tap teaspoon against rim of mug twice. Enjoy.

Yummers. Off to make tea

SaorAlba · 16/06/2010 00:18

Almost every time DP makes tea he asks me if I want a cup. I don't like tea. Every time he asks I tell him that I don't like tea, I've been saying this for years. This weekend he actually had a teabag in the cup for me and was about to pour the water in.

I'm not sure if he's losing the plot or if he thinks that asking me regularly might get me to change my mind

kreecherlivesupstairs · 16/06/2010 08:25

Saor, do we share a husband. I think the last time I had a cup of tea was about 25 years ago. DH asks me at least once a week if I want a cup. He knows I don't drink it but bless him, he still asks. He isn't so keen on making me coffee though because I can't bear instant.

trixie123 · 16/06/2010 08:34

have only drunk mw tea since DS was born and got fed up with wasting 3/4 of a cup cos it got cold. I did eventually get one of those thermal mugs which was better.
Am also very picky abut how it is made, needs to be strong with the right amount of milk (which varies at different times of day). Complete opposite of MIL who has it SO weal you can pour the water through a teabag for her, then use it for my tea!

bran · 16/06/2010 21:38

Maybe we did work together Kewcumber. About 17 years ago were you approaching 50, black and a committed evangelical Christian? If so it must have been you I was making the tea for.

WoodlandFaerie · 16/06/2010 21:41

Well, i can see his point, some people can taste cutlery.

I for example cannot eat ice cream with a metal fork as I can taste the metal in the ice cream. So it has to be plastic.

Oh, but i love microwaved coffee. I guess its a throwback from having a baby and thus the only way I ever drank hot coffee.

Stayinthelines · 16/06/2010 21:44

Trixie, I think we share a MIL!

Morloth · 16/06/2010 21:44

I make vile tea. I just can't seem to get the tea/water balance right, I am too impatient.

DH however makes wonderful tea, so we leave it up to him.

Maylee · 16/06/2010 21:47

This reminds me of something I read once which compared tea to an orgasm. Was along the lines of...

"no-one can make tea as good as you can make it yourself......but when someone else does learn to make it just they way you like it, it's pure heaven"

Morloth · 16/06/2010 21:49

I made the HV a cup of tea when she came to visit, I felt so sorry for her, I could tell she really didn't want to drink it but she was too polite to say "Yuck!".

bran · 16/06/2010 22:12

WoodlandFaerie, you use a fork to eat ice cream? The weirdness of not being able eat it with a metal implement pales into insignificance next to the weirdness of using a fork.