to want a birthday card from my DH

[wisteriawoman]

DH isn't big on birthdays but after two and a half years of marriage am I being unreasonable to want a birthday card (and present?) and a present at Chrsitmas time. DH says "you didn't tell me what you wanted" but I like surprises.

I feel like a spoilt brat grumbling about this but I feel really hurt that I have to put on a brave face to family and friends when they ask what did DH get you and I have to say "oh, we went to the pub for supper"

BTW I'm into gestures not big flashy presents - it's the thought that counts.

I feel your pain. I gave birth to DD on my birthday and got not a sausage from dh. nearly 3 years later and I've almost forgiven him...but not quite.

yanbu
some men need it spelling out which ruins the effect somewhat but better than not getting anything which has happened to me once- he'll never do that again!

btw is it your birthday today?

happy birthday it's mine as well

I didn't get one this year, but to be fair we all had D+V bug starting the day before. He did have 363 other days on which he could have bought it though...

Happy birthday.

Thank you for the bday greetings. In fact the big day was on Sunday but I only managed to mention to DH today as I was rushing out the door and he was off to big meeting all day. (Timing has never been my thing).

Ggirl I'll take your advice and spell it out to him. A friend of mine says that if your dh has an annoying habit then you have to either tell him at the beginning of your marriage or just accept it for the rest of your life.
I think the lack of bday/ CHristmas presents will be on that list.

For the record my most memorable bday present was a fairy cake given to me - quite out of the blue- by someone v sweet.

No YANBU. IME though, men are crap at surprises. Left to his own devices my DH would just get online to Interflora every bday and xmas..........you need to either tell him what you want (absolutely NO point in hinting......he won't get it) or give him a list of potential gifts and tell him to choose one. That way he has no excuse and you get your present.