Warcraft

[spybear]

I hate it, it has taken my DP (and my mnet time).

He says to me "I do talk to you, I can go on the computer and talk to you at the same time you know"

Does he bollocks, one word answers thats all I get. And an occasional comment about something I am watching on TV, I think to sound like he is still paying attention.

I am a gamer as are many of my friends we steer clear of warcraft very addictive game imo. I used to hate calling my uncle (who is close in age to me and we are very close) because all I would hear is keys clicking and I knew he was on warcraft because when asked a question that was stupid he would agree.

Oh it's so addictive! Used to be on it a lot pre DD...

Still venture onto it occasionally.

How long will hardcore addiction last Belle its been about 4 months now, and no sign of slowing down.

Hmmm, I think I was pretty full on for about six months... It's seductive because you do need to use your brain - it's not just fighting etc. If you get into the team quests or regularly meet up with the same people it'll be longer unless something in RL intervenes... My opinion only. I got a bit tired of it, to be honeset.

I think it also depends on how quickly you move up the levels. If you progress quite quickly, you're more likely to stay on but if you get stuck, then you'll get fed up and bored.

Now we're talking about it, I'm thinking perhaps I'll log on again sometime this week

Gawd....I feel your pain!! DH plays (has done for about 18 mths now) and he 'raids' three times a week, which I'm told I should be 'thankful for' as he could easily do more But he's always logging on doing other stuff WOW related. I hate it - feel like it's taken over.

I was going to start this thread.

When I moaned at DH he spends too much ime on WoW, his response was to...

Buy me a laptop.

Don't get me wrong I appreciate that I get the pick of the telly, and uninterrupted MN time but AIBU to want to have a conversation sometimes?

And then when he tells me about all the crap he has won or whatever, He bawls me out for not being interested!

DH keeps asking me to play, saying lots of couples play and we'd be doing something/spending time together I can't imagine anything worse....a couple I know seem to communicate only via the chat facility on Facebook - now that's sad

DP is always saying we should get ANOTHER laptop so we can play together!!

He also tells me about all the stuff he has done on there and gets angry when my eyes glaze over.

YANBU to be fed up. I played WoW for a bit. I still play a couple of other games that don't charge monthly fees, but I've gotten over my initial addiction, and things are better in hand.

A lot of people have addiction issues with WoW - I know I would have been hooked a lot longer than I was were we not too broke to afford the subscription. And had I not already done my online gaming thing for a good few months with a different game.

spybear, I wouldn't like to say how long he'll be hooked for, but if it goes on past another couple of months, I'd start trying methods of getting him off it. Mention addiction - I had this mentioned to me a few times, and while I brushed it off with waspish comments, after a while it begna to penetrate just how much time I was spending on the damned games. If you keep a timelong as well (okay, getting slightly OTT here, but still) then you could say "Look, this is how long you give WoW, how long do I get as your DP?" Right now, he's not giving you time - he's giving that attention to a game.

And I can say this honestly as someone whose DP has had to repeatedly warn them that they spend too much time on the PC. It's all too easy to dismiss other people's remarks about excess with comments like 'but we can still chat' and 'it's not hurting anyone', but sadly, it's not until you begin to move away that you realise how addictive it really is. I'd prepare for some arguments over it, sadly.

WoW is ace i used to play quite a lot before DD, very addictive i had three characters at one time so could easily find myself playing for 9 hrs stopping only for toilet breaks and food

YANBU. DH played this pretty much constantly for about 3 years. He was a guild member and talked to other guild members through a headset, so it wasn't just playing a game on the screen IYSWIM. He even met up with other guild members when we were in London for a weekend.

He doesn't play now, not sure why he stopped (I think there were some guild fall-out shenanigans) but it was all-consuming, a definite addiction. When we met the other members, it was all they talked about all night long, and it was like they were talking about real life events (e.g. "remember when we did the raid on Mount Doom" or whatever), not just happenings in a game. They also called each other by their WOW names. Bit weird IMO.

I could be wrong but I think it's all or nothing when it comes to WOW and I would have a big chat with your DH before he really gets into it. I'm v. laid back and like my own space, but looking back I can't believe I put up with it for so long.

I have never played WOW but I am a gamer (not so much now) and geeky so I know how much these games can affect lives. (DH and I spent hours/days/weeks completing Zelda Ocarina of Time on the N64 ) But it is one of my fondest gaming memories

I watched a fab documentary called Second Skin Trailer here. It is a real eyeopener. Maybe you and DH could watch this together one evening?

i play wow, my husband plays wow, my dad plays wow and my mum has just started... but we're all massive geeks who like that sort of thing

yanbu to be annoyed that he basically ignores you. try and reach some sort of compromise. maybe a couple of nights on, a couple of nights off

people underestimate gaming addiction and its impact on family life.

if your dh's emotions are bein affected y it, if family life is being put in second place because of it, then it is an addiction, like alcoholism, drug use. it can escalate from communication issues to really bad shit

He will have a night off if I ask him, but I don't like having to ask him to spend time with me, and then there is pressure there to properly 'spend time' together instead of just being together IYSWIM.

Bitter, when I moaned that DH was spending too much time online, he bought me a netbook

He doesn't play WOW but he does spend hours on some racing game where they have to be on at specific times to race together, not to mention the forums he checks, his bloody mother who seems to think Skype is a 24/7 chat window and work, who can ring him at anytime with some problem that requires him to dial in and fix it! It's a good job our PC is in the lounge else I'd never see him!!

It's not doing anything for my Mumnset addiction either!

Seriously though, friends of mine have just split because of his WOW addiction. They have no children thank goodness but she got sick of him either being at work or squirreled away in the spare room, headset on, playing WOW and chatting to anyone but her. She was eating alone, sleeping alone, he wouldn't go out to meet friends. It's really sad because they've been together for a long time and genuinely loved each other but he just grew to love WOW more I suppose

Really interesting article here about computer games and how they suck you in.

www.cracked.com/article_18461_5-creepy-ways-video-games-are-trying-to-get-you-addicted.html