to think this is an inappropriate thing for a 2 year old to play with of am I over reacting?

[DetectivePotato]

My DS went to ILs yesterday with DH.

When they came home DS was saying something about a butterfly and DH said his mum has a bowl of glass beads with some glass animals in that she lets DS play with. I asked him if he was watching him and he said no as his mum and step dad were.

IMO, even if he is being watched, I don't think it is an appropriate thing to play with. My nan agreed but am I over reacting seeing as they were watching him?

A child eating a grape, or piece of crusty bread could do the same.

Try not to fret - no matter how many toys there are at my Aunty's house, all the kids prefer her bowl of glass beads (the kid you put in the bottom of a vase!) so much so that she's had to buy a top up just for the kids!! The eldest is 8 now and they have all survived it

what than a smooth round stone such as the ones you get in the gravel that is found in many gardens??

I suppose it depends on the 2 year-old if choking is the biggest concern. At 22 months my DD has pretty much stopped putting inappropriate things in her mouth. Obviously we're still careful but I wouldn't be worried about her having small objects when supervised.

you are overreacting

understandably, but overreacting nonetheless

it's actually rather lovely IMO if there are "special" things NOT made out of plastic that can be brought out for children to experience under supervision

my favourite auntie had a button collection she used to get out when I was there, I've never forgotten it

you need to relax a bit

You are over-reacting, yes. It sounds like really good fun, and he was being supervised by adults. It's nice for children to touch things that are not from the ELC.

exactly./// glass slides!

i was told by a paed that marbles and small hard/glass things aren't that much of a worry. they tend to go straight through them

yes, I au paired for an 18 mnth old and she loved the button collection. She was never in any danger.

you're over-reacting, so long as they're supervised it's fine, my nearly 3 year old regularly plays with buttons and one of her favourite things in the world since she was about 18m has been a little solid glass duck.

IMO everything is fine with supervision. I let my one year old play with most things and only stop him if he is about to do something dangerous. IMO children need to explore their environment - it is how they learn and if you stop them doing everything they will grow up to be so frightened of the world around them (this is what I feel is the consequence of a father who was and still is a health and safety freak).

I remember that when I was a child some of my favourite things at my Nan and Grandad's house were definitely not toys - knitting needles, ornaments, ashtrays, placemats ...

... stool with little ladder to get onto it, icing bags and nozzles, glasses etc etc

< nostalgic >

Detective, I think we're on our own here!

Agree fine with supervision. DH's grandparents have the same sort of beads and DD absolutely loves playing with them - she gravitates towards them every time we go there. DH and I do watch her carefully but so long as she's watched I don't think it is problem.

if he is being supervised by adults who are on the ball, it's fine - as someone said, he could choke on a stone in the park
if he is not actually being watched by adults who are fairly quick to respond, then I revise my opinion and would say YANBU
you did a little bit of drip drip there with the doddery grandparents thing

Is this your first baby?

No offence, but you wait until you have your second/third/fourth....! They get hold of all manner of unsuitable things and you soon realise that they are unlikely to come to any harm so long as they are supervised. Children are hardy little things.

You have to remember that most of the strict, scaremongering advice is aimed at parents who need to be told what's safe and what's not. Most of us are lucky enough to have enough common sense and intelligence to work out what needs supervision and what doesn't; and how far to take that supervision so you don't hinder their learning and exploration.

how is that patronising?

Doesn't seem patronising to me.

nope - didn't sound patronising to me either

there there Mutt

nope... still don't see it. what's wrong with asking if it's a first baby? aren't we all a bit precious with our first?

I actually don't always agree with mrswobble but nodded along to her last post.
Not patronising to me either and is actually totally true.