to feel that i'm not being a hypochondriac drama queen?

[thegingerone]

hi.

I had a procedure a few weeks ago and in the early hours of Sat was taken into hospital by ambulance following a significant bleed(TMI 8 mat pads in 5 hours and huge (i mean it) clots.) I also collasped in the bathroom. I was admitted to hospital due to blood loss.

My AIBU query is that I thought that my DH had explained I won't be at work today ,but due to some crossed lines (maybe) my manager phoned me up to let me know not to worry about coming in if I didn't feel up to it this morning. The message I asked DH to pass on was that def no work on Monday, dodgy for rest of week (I work 3 days, but not sure that is relevant) I'm sure DH didn't want to go into too much detail on phone with work and I'm not sure they need to hear the details. I just wish I could explain that all of this is very scary for me and my priorities lie with getting better so my poor kids can have their mum back. I'm still waiting to find out if I have microinvasive cervical cancer.Which I prob (statistically) DON'T have but it's a bit of an arse to have to consider!

I feel like crap at moment. I'm on antibiotics. Being at work( raised blood pressure) starts my bleed off (Prev bleeds not as bad as Fri/SAt one) A nurse at gynae ward has advisd to take a few days off til I'm sorted.

Can I be given permission to feel a little bit sorry for myself?

pemission from me! advice is to rest up and not feel guilty, hope you feel better soon x

probably not what you want to hear but I personally think it's better to be up and doing things than wallowing in self-pity.

what's microinvasive cervical cancer compared to a regular cervical cancer?

Sorry you feel ill though.

no, YANBU, def not drama queen - take it easy! sod work!

BAFE seriously, you think the OP is just wallowing in self pity? I have suffered severe blood loss to the point of collapsing and needing a transfusion, the OP probably feels utterly crap and washed out, & anxious, both about going out and worrying about the possibility of another (embarrassing)bleed, and the possibility of cancer!

she should only be doing stuff to take her mind off things if she is feeling well enough!

YANBU. I had a very similar thing about 8 weeks back (heavy bleeding, huuuggggge clots, feeling dizzy)and I took two weeks off work because I simply felt shite.

The hospital probably told you that a big bleed like that can cause temporary hypotension, which is abnormally low blood pressure, so you might be feeling off because of this too.

Feet up and Dickinsons Real Deal on the box for you, milady. Hope you feel better soon.

You take as much time as you need OP.

There is this thing in our culture whereby if an illness relates to anything potentially period like, then a good percentage of the population think it is your moral duty to suck it up and get on with it, no matter how you awful you feel.

I have endometriosis and my bleeds are hideous clotty affairs ( sorry if TMI). I have recently had an op to hopefully sort things out for a while, but before that I would get no sleep for a night due to the frequency of having to change the sanitary towels and the pain. However it's not something I particularly want to talk about so can't go into low gear at work and due to the frequency DH has pretty much lost all interest/sympathy even though he was there when the consultant gave the diagnosis.

Make sure they check all options as to what caused it and hope you feel better soon.

Hi thanks for the support and tea! Those cakes were yummy.

microinvasive cancer is when it has "only" invaded the cervix and is still at the stage where they can just cut that bit out or do a "simple" (can't remember the proper techical term) hysterectomy (sp?) ie would only need to remove my womb not everything else! Not that I'm wallowing in self pity or thinking about that, just answering the question!

TBH the hospital told me nothing. I was admitted and discharged within 24 hours and the dr was too busy to talk to me about anything.

I'd love to be up and about doing things but I walked to my local post office (things can't be too bad if I've still got one of those ) and felt I was going to pass out or vomit on the way back.

Anyway the tea seems to have taken effect and I'm feeling much better now.

Thanks everyone. I just needed some virtual sympathy.