to think the woman next door is being cheeky.

[NoseyNooNoo]

Next door had a party yesterday from about 1pm until midnight. It was very noisy- braying women, feral children and the tv on so loud I could tell you what wsa being advertised.

Anyway, we were in our garden early on in the party and I heard her say that since the new neighbours arrived (that would be us) she really noticed how thin the walls are and therefore she made a real point of being quiet, probably too quiet, unlike her new neighbours.

We're renting a semi and have to put up with their tv blaring, loud children and the worst piano playing imaginable. Yes we are a bit noisy since I have a 3yr old and 1 yr old (and the previous inhabitant was a 90yr woman) but I think it's really rude to say this when we were within ear-shot and at the start of an 11 hour party that was hardly quiet.

I can't even think of a way to get her back because we can't be too noisy of an evening due to our children.

sounds like 6 of one and half a dozen of the other

saying the walls are thin is hardly an insult

It was a world cup party wasnt it? So you shouldnt have too many more for the next 4 years.

Try to be understanding and then you can make noise without guilt

They are noisy. So are you.

So, what's the problem? Don't think you have any right to judge tbh.

Every other week there's some sort of party. If it's during the week the children stand on the table with their friends and abuse me and the children.

As for being understanding - I was trying the 'live and live' tack until I heard her slag us off to 30 odd people and then make out that she's as quiet as a church mouse.

Bit late now but you should have got the hoover out at 7.30am!

these feral piano playing children are such a nuisance aren't they?

No I don't think we have a right to judge but I think it's insensititve to slag someone off when they are about 2 metres away from you... and she was saying they were so perfect.

When we moved in I apologised in advance if we proved to be noisier than a 90 yr old women.

Obviously IABU though.

Unfortuanetly you can't choose your neighbours. You either find a way to deal with it by speaking to them or you get involved in a tit for tat noise making game or you move...

What Eleanor said .....

Well, I think she was rude. Did she know you were there?

Yes you're noisy. So is she. But for her to complain - because that's what her comment was, a complaint - about your noise while being so noisy herself is really not on.

I don't think you are unreasonable on that.

That's what we're doing Eleanor, hopefully exchanging soon.

I think I've been misunderstood though. I don't mind the noise - everyone is noisy in their own way. I just thought it was cheeky to say we're noisy and her family is 'probably too quiet' when we were clearly in ear-shot.
That's cheeky in my book.

Hecate, I'd think she did know we were in the garden due to the slope of the garden... and hey, if we're so noisy she'd have heard us

Then you should have called over "I know what you mean! I can hear you right now, and I can hear your kids playing, and the piano, and and I can hear you having sex!. The walls are really REALLY thin! It's a big problem."

[evil]

some women do bray, some children do act as though they are feral. Nothing wrong with saying that imo.
Also, not everyone can afford to buy a detatched house with its own land so thats not really a reasonable suggestion.
But it does sound as though you are both as loud as each other, your neighbour just doesn't realise she's just a loud as you. Go and have a word next time it disturbs you