to be mad when hubby didnt come home last night

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i know it was England game and he went to watch it to pub with his dad
@2 in the morning he called to say hes at his dads and hes going to spend night there!
i am so peeed off!
is this normal? pub and his dads house are about 15 min walk so why not come home?
i have exams tomo so need to do my last minute revision today but hes not here to look after my dd,
im not happy

I wouldn't be pleased that he didn't call until two but then my DH would probably have text me instead, which I would have picked up when I woke up in the morning. He does sometimes decide spontaneously to stay at a friend's after the pub, which I don't mind at all if he has work the next day (rather than having DS) The staying out all night is fine if he tells you, at least I think so.

Oops just saw the last bit. That's bad if he had committed to look after the DD.

exactly i think hes selfish
he should know when to call it a night and make hes way home!

he woke me up with his call @ 2 and 5 this morning so instead of concentrating on my studies im annoyed and with headache watching ben 10!

YANBU imo. If he had said he was coming home and he could have easily, then there was no reason for him to stay out. I think it's quite rude.

I would have rung him as soon as I got up and told him to either get home to look after DD as he had agreed or pick her up and take her back to his parent's so you can revise.

YANBU.

I prefer drunk men not to come home. He still insists on it. I would suggest disarming Jim by nit making a big deal out of it. Does he know he is looking after his dd?

Jim!!! Obviously meant him

Wondered who Jim was

YANBU imo.

He needs to grow up. YANBU.

He probably wanted to go back after the pub closed and carry on drinking.

I dunno, it wouldn't bother me. I'd be pissed off about being woken up he should have decided it earlier and told you, say, before midnight.

I don't see anything wrong with staying out, as long as you keep in touch and the other person knows your location and plans.

And you haven't dropped them in the shit by doing it, of course! If they were supposed to go out, or you were supposed to do something, then it's unfair. But other than that, you are kept updated, no big deal, imo.

Yabu. Give the guy a break at least he rang you!

hairy, you are joking, aren't you?

I mean about being woken up at 2? Can't see why he couldn't have come home but it wouldn't bother me but it would if I was rung at that time.

I think he has every right to stay out, and at his dad's, so not suspicious, and the good manners (if ill-timed) to let you know where he was. NOW he needs to get his butt home to help you out.

I don't think it's that big a deal. If he was very drunk then he was safer going home with his dad.

YABU he rang you, he's at his dad's not with OW. He'll turn up thankful that you didn't mind him letting his hair down and thinking to himself what a lovely wife he has. then he'll look after dc's. If he's anything like my dh he'll have forgotten that you had to revise, so it's not intentional.

i'd rather have a pissed up DP at his dad's than in my bed to be honest.

i hate beery breath getting into bed at 2am.. accompainied by a gazillion trips to the toilet to empty the beer out of his bladder and at worst a puking episode.

much rather he didn't come home.

I'd be pissed off about a 2am phone call, but not too bothered about him staying at his dads. Tell him to text you in future and have your phone on silent.

Take your dd round to his dad's with whatever she might need them come home and get some revision done. The fresh air may help get of the headache.

YABU as you appear to want to play the martyr.

YANreallyBU, i would be peeved at being woke up at 2 in the morning! However, at least he did let you know, in his drunk mind he probably thought it was better to let you know.
I would be mad if he didnt make an apperance until later on, but if he did turn up early morning to watch dc i wouldnt really mind - up to him if he wants to watch kids with a hangover!
In future though i would say what another poster already said - tell him to text and leave your phone on silent, then you dont get woke up at daft o'clock but you know where he is when you wake up in morning!

He probably just got caught up in the spirt of things and didnt really think!

Take a deep breath and let it go .... and good luck for your exam tommorow!

1. his dad isnt like normal dads his age..so OW possible
2. i did put phone on silent when went to bed but he rang housephone :/
3. he came home @9 and i went to bedroom to study and left childcare to him...only to find him later aleep on sofa while dd was cuddled up to him watching tv (poor child- the toxic fumes!)
4. mother in law ( divorced from father in law) came and got dd for couple of hours of tv free time

5.husband was forced to park with dd after lunch brought dinner so not that bad after all but im not his fathers fan and was stressed about exams and just wanted some HELP but thank you ladies.. just wanted to have a moan exam went really bad..results in july...