To feel like a I cannot bring myself t eat my lunch now? (Don't read if you have just eaten/are about to eat!!)

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So I brought my lunch in from work. Sat down at the PC so I could check MN, while I ate. Turned to get the salt, which next to me, and right there, just millimetres away from my hand and my lunch, was a lump of tissue soaked in snot. With snot dripping out of the sides of it. It had bubbles in it

I don't feel so hungry any more. In fact I feel liable to throw up if I even attempt to eat.

DH, whose tissue it was, thinks I am over reacting and being 'silly'.

I otoh feel I am being perfectly reasonable and he is disgusting beyond belief. I don't expect such dirty, lazy behaviour from an ill toddler never mind a grown man.

yuk yuk yuk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I personally have snot-phobia, when my DCs had colds as toddlers and I had to wipe their noses I'd heave every time and a couple of times I actually threw up.
Your DH is disgusting and YANBU!!!!

Ewwww, that is gross.
I can't believe any adult thinks that is reasonable behaviour. You use the tissue and then flush it away ffs.
on your behalf.

That is disgusting.

Although tbh, if it didn´t touch my food, I´d still be able to eat

(Why is there salt near your computer?)

Because I had brought it in and put it down before nipping to the loo. I didn't notice the tissue at first.

that's ganking

kick him in the nuts

twice

what a fecking OIK! I'd rub it in his sarnie, myself - see whether or not he "over-reacts" then.
[blech]

ewwwww that's minging
put it under his pillow

He's definitely asking for a kick in the nuts. He now stood over me telling me how fat I am. I have lost over half a stone in the last fortnight.

Wanker!!!

Is he super svelte himself then?
I'd give him a couple of kicks in the nuts now - he's spoiling for a fight, by the sounds of it!

Skanky AND abusive - lovely combination you have there.

I don't think he was being abusive, he is trying to be helpful. He is just a twunt.

He was telling me that on our holidays I should wear a bikini so that when I come back and see how big I look in the photos I will be motivated to diet.

He seems to be over looking the fact that my jeans fit me for the first time in months and my top is far too big.

So in fact his placing of the skankoid tissue within spitting distance of your lunch was a roundabout aide to your diet? To put you off eating to help you lose more weight?

Ah well, that's ok then.

He sounds like a total tosser.

YANBU....

I know I (far) too often mention in my posts that i'm a nurse, but, well, I am... erm.. the only 2 things I can't stomach in my job, are sputem/large volumes of snot etc... and vomit. I mean the chucked up a load of food vomit, not biley empty stomach vomit...

It's disgusting and in your own home, from you own DH!

Not on... you need to think of something he can't cope with, or doesn't like... i dont know, like... < sorry if too much alert> leave a used sanitary pad next on his bedside cabinet, or, if thats really too gross, just, on the side, in the bathroom... too nasty?

As for telling you you are fat, KICK HIM IN THE NUTS! what a shitty wanker! What a horrible horrible thing to say

You´ve lost over half a stone in a fortnight?

Bloody well done!

I didn´t know that was possible (without having D&V

Care to share the secret?

I've been dieting (cutting back on carbs mainly and reducing portion size) and exercising for the first week. The second week, I have had a stinking cold and no appetite.

The cold has gone now. It would seem I have given it to DH

Oh I have also not been sleeping due to to his incessant snoring. Lack of sleep effects my appetite and makes me feel nauseous.

I can see a couple of mitigating factors here from your dh's point of view.

1. He might not have known you were going to eat your lunch at the pc, and anyway, he probably left his snot rag their accidentally.

1. As far as bodily fluids goes, at least it's odourless and belongs to your dh and you'll have traded bodily fluids before.

That said, he should be less critical about your weight and more supportive about your weight loss.

Ah, I think I see my problem.

Have also been cutting down & exercising.

Haven´t had a cold though, & husbands snoring tends to make me get up in the night & look for food!

Oh for the love of god. I went to the shop for cleaning supplies and spotted a prawn salad on offer, so thought I'd give lunch a 2nd try.

Upon opening the salad dd2 appears with a fork, a huge cheeky grin and "Me share your pawns mummy, peeease?". My family do not want me to eat today

Euuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh

YANBU, and I am officially one of the LEAST squeamish people in the world.

Except for the smell of toothpaste (makes me retch) the only thing I can't stand is used tissues littering the place. Weirdly I'm not so bothered by actual snot

I think it is genetic: both DH & MIL leave a little trail of used tissues in their wake like something out of Hansel & Gretel. At least DH only does this when he is ill. I am MOST unsympathetic

The less said about the weight loss issue the better, the swine.

Can't you pinch him firmly in the gut and say 'no beer for YOU till you get back into those nice trousers you used to wear when we first met'.