to tell people who tell me to "get a move on" and/or "relax" where they can shove their advice?

[TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle]

probably but am in a very bad mood and having a bad day so i really dont care.

we have had 11 mc's in total and 1 ep. next month we will have been ttc for 5 years. my periods are getting more painful and heavier (not top mention more hormonal) and I am sick of everything. Im sick of people asking me when we will have another dc, if I am polite and trot out the "we'll see what happens" line they invariably comment that we "ought to get a move on". if I say "ah, doubt it, childbirth hurts ha ha" they say "children need a sibling". If I say "we have been trying but have been very unlucky" they say "you should relax"

Im fed up. i hate being infertile, I hate feeling guilty and I hate knowing that ds will probably be an only child. I hate feeling that Ive failed him and dh by having a shit womb.

next time Im so tempted to just tell people to fuck off and mind their own business.

The clunking insensitivity of some people can be beyond belief. When we were ttc, I met DH's (male, late 60's) cousin for the first time and he asked question after question about when we were going to have a baby, all of which I was trying to deflect politely. Finally he said 'I assume you ARE trying' in tones of disapproval really. I replied 'Actually, our relationship is only platonic'. Cousin's wife snorted her port over the table.

In some ways I wish I had had the courage to say 'none of your fucking business. Pass the brie'.

I used to go for a smile and something flippant soch as " if only they came to order or you could press a button" most people then backeed off but I feel your pain and there is nothing worse!

If you are brave and strong enough to mention your mc's then do so, it will shut people up ans they can feel like shit for being so bloody nosy, rude and annoying. My heart goes out to you.

On the rare occasions that I do ask, I usually ask something like "do you want to have any/more children" - but even that is to people that I know fairly well and if we are having a more personal chat. I remember being asked just after my miscarriage and it was so tough after just 1, I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like if I had some of the above situations.

thanks all. Im probably just having a bad day, Im fed up of people thinking its ok to pass judgement on my fertlity (or lack of)