to not want to buy a uniform?

[firsttimemum77]

Okay maybe IABU - but I would like your honest thoughts as the nursery is having a meeting on Wednesday for parents who may have any questions.

My DD attends a private nursery/preschool 4 days a week and this is her last year there (she will be starting Reception next September).

The nursery have never had a uniform but from this September they want the children to all wear a uniform, which ofcourse I have to buy - probably a few off seeing as how messy her clothes are by the end of the day.

I don't think I should have to for just one year, seeing as she is leaving next September and I would have to buy her a uniform for a whole new school and think the nursery should let the children who only have a year and under to go 'opt out.'

AIBU? DD has so many clothes and she mainly gets to wear most of them to nursery, if she was in a uniform most days then all her other clothes would go to waste as she would really only be out of uniform 3 days a week. When she goes to school thats a different matter, she will be wearing a uniform 5 days a week, so I won't be buying her LOADS (like I have been) clothes because she would really only be out of uniform on the weekends and school holidays iyswim. I just don't want to come across as a 'defensive' parent...

YABU - she'd have outgrown it in a year anyway.

Thats my point - she'll have outgrown all her masses of 'nursery clothes' as well, which I have spent a small fortune on.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. There is something very wrong with wanting to see tiny tots in uniform. But then I don't like school uniform either and would like to see it dropped.

why have you spent a 'small fortune' on nursery clothes anyway??

does she not need clothes at other times too?

You are being reasonable if you won't buy the uniform because the thought of putting nursery children in uniform is outrageous.

You are being unreasonable not to get the uniform if you just don't want to comply with the rulse of the nursery you signed up for.

YANBU

When mine where at nursery they didn't have uniforms, however most now have a sweatshirt which is ok especially for if they take them out and about.

Can't she change into other outfits after nursery, especially if she gets in a mess (normal).
She will outgrow the nursery sweatshirts in a year anyway I expect; you will be able to sell them on if they are in good condition.

Borderlass - I suppose if it was just a sweatshirt for when they were going out and about, that would be okay...maybe I could suggest that!

You have a choice - buy the uniform or pick a different nursery.

Don't 4 year olds grow pretty fast? It's June now, by September a lot of her clothes might be outgrown anyway, and those that don't can be weekend clothes.

Colliecross - after nursery its normally home and comfort clothes - not dressing up with 'outdoor clothes' iyswim.

Altinkum - flamed? strong word! for a AIBU about a nursery uniform...Anyhows...the nursery care...They are suggesting a whole uniform, including shoes, trousers / skirt. Sweatshirt IMO would be fine.

YANBU.

I dont like seeing little ones in full on uniform.

Maybe you could ask if the nursery will be reducing their fees or is this just another money making excercise as invariably they will be making some money out of it !

Asda were selling two school skirts/trousers, three polo shirts and a cardigan/sweater for a tenner last week.

YABU, uniforms needn't be expensive. Dd2 will be getting a uniform for nursery in Sept, even though her's is optional. I'd rather her ruin a cheap uniform from Primark or Asda than her good clothes.

TrillianAstra - DD will be 3 in August - I have just bought her LOADS of 3/4 clothes, so by September she will not have outgrown them at all.

Why have you spent a fortune on nursery clothes that get really messy?

DD goes to school nursery 4.5 days a week. She has to wear a uniform (top half of school uniform plus own bottoms). 9 times out of 10 she needs a change when she gets home so her "normal" clothes do not "go to waste". Personally I'm glad that it's just her uniform that gets grubby (and it really is grubby after wearing since September) and it preserves her normal clothes that bit more.

Also, she has clothes "going to waste" because she doesn't like them!! She tends to wear the same favourites over and over. If you've bought ahead you may well find that you have the same problem.

ShinyandNew - fair point.

redskyatnight - a said a 'small' fortune. When you add up the stuff a child needs its does cost that - even if it is just nursery clothes - and they do wash well, and she manages to get a few wears out of them.

I normally replace her 'wardrobe' each year with things she needs - so have obviously just paid out for 3/4 year old clothing, as she has grown out of mostly 2/3. Had I know before that the nursery were going to implement a uniform, I would not have bought as many things.

School uniforms, in my opinion, are a form of social control.
I refused to put my 7 in uniform until they were in full-time school, and refused to pay extortionate amounts for sweatshirts with logos on them, which went out of shape after a few weeks.
Its ridiculous that the government of the day can state what a child must wear for school, what they must have in their lunchboxes. What next?

where do they expect you to get school skirts for a 3 year old

What are they going to do if you simply don't put your child in the uniform?

I have just been told that I can 'opt out'...
Problem solved!

Uniforms for nursery is a bit much but i have no problem with it for primary school and onwards, i went to a school where you had to go the whole way with blazers, summer uniform etc, my DH however went to a school where they didnt have to wear a uniform and he was bullied terribly and called peasant amongst other things because his parents could not afford to buy him 'nice' clothes(according to the bullies)

IMO a child dressed in uniform always looks smart

Oh that is a pain if you've just bought 'next size up' clothes and then they tell you.