to want some male company

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Thats it really. Ive been single for 18 months. Its depressing. Ive had sex twice in that time. Horrible as sex is my favourite thing.
The children are at their dads this weekend and i was just thinking how nice it wouild be to have a man around, share a bootle of wine, cook, etc.. etc...
id just like some male company.

I have a fairly active social life when the children arent about, but this hasnt led to meeting any men. I dont want to behave as slutty as i once did and am not really into one night stands anymore ( though the only two shags ive had in 18 months both were)

So, i have to find someone i like. Internet dating is rubbish and in 18 months ive not found anyone.

Im a bit bloody fed up about it.

The problem seems to be at 24 they are just very immature, and while i might look the same age as them, i dont act it. i dont want to be clubbing everyweekend, or getting constantly pissed, or just behaving like a student.
I like a bit of intelect, knowledge, life experience, wit, and ive not come across any 24 year olds with it.. if i did that would be great!!

I work in an all female office. I work, go home and do housethings and look after children. I only go out when they are at their dads which is every other weekend. Family are willing to babysit infrequently, and i cant afford to pay for one.

Everyone i know is in a couple and not interested in going out into town for a few drinks.... difficult situation for me.

Hmmmm

What about something you are interested in and like a club for that, that you can do when you fancy ie sometimes on the weekends when you're free

Don't you know anyone single who will go out on the pull with you? What about the women at work - there must be some there?

It is really really hard I know - takes a lot of frogs and all that. It took me a good while. And I spent a lot of time in the pub

nope. everyone i know is married or in long term relationships........

will look for weekend clubs,

I am sure there are people with better ideas than me! my idea was always to go to the pub which while a good start, does have its limitations

I bet if you posted in relationships people would have loads of great ideas

join a single parents group, and single parents website maybe, there must be lots of frustrated dads too! ?

just have a shag with one of the men that approach you maybe, just to get back on the horse

what about going to dance classes? - I'm thinking salsa more than old tyme

id love to go to dance classes. But a regular babysitter is a problem. Family dont mind helping out on the one off, but they all work so dont like late nights, and then other things get in the way and they dont really want to do it.

I dont really want to join a single parents group. Yes, im now a single parent, buti dont feel like that defines who i am.

Im a festival and gig going girl. who grows veg, drinks wine and knows how to cook. I dont watch much tv but spend way to long on the intenet. I have a soft soft for indie/rock type boys and they dont tend to hang around salsa classes anyway.

I need to be in pubs with bands playing. I think this would be the best option for me. But noone will go with me and thats the shitter.

Keep your eyes peeled for potential people to go out with? There must be some somewhere. Who do you go to festivals with (or don't you any more ). Going to gigs by yourself is doable maybe, more so than going to pub/club on your own?

Also, my bro goes dancing and the thing that he does is something that you can just turn up when you like, they run various nights. It starts off with everyone in a circle doing some basic moves, then the men and women have a go at dancing with different ones of each other (it was directed when I went ie not people choosing and being left out). That was about an hour then the band played on and there was a general big dance.

This is in London but I'm sure they do similar all over the place. Most people were there on their own. Oh and my bro is in a indie/rock band BTW and he goes to these things! So you never know...

my friend just married a lovely guy she met on a dating web site.

She did apply herself to the dating quite seriously, kissed quite a few frogs enroute, and got thoroughly exasperated along the way, but she got there in the end. It's just another way of making contact with people that MIGHT appeal to you (and vice versa)

keep at it!