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AIBU?

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To tell him to grow up?

35 replies

YouSmellFunny · 10/06/2010 13:25

We have been waiting for a flat packed set of drawers to arrive for a week and also arriving this week is a second set of flat pack drawers and bunk beds. DP keeps going on aboiut how we have our work cut out for us getting all these things put together by weekend. so the drawers arrive today, I get the instructions out, think it looks simple enough so put them together myself. This was mostly to save dp a job when he gets in from work and also so we're not stunk faffing with them all evening. When I'd finished I text him at work and told him not to worry about them as they were done and got this reply:

"great, thanks alot, you know I like putting them together, you should have waited for me to come home. have you even done them right? if they're knackered we wont be able to send them back. You should have waited for me."

he'll be in a right mood when he comes home now. AIBU to call him a tosser and tell him to grow up??

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GloriaSmut · 10/06/2010 16:50

You have missed the need to "cover the piano legs" in your otherwise excellent response, Ikiboo. Because it really is necessary to sign off with the single endearment "Cuntychops"

5Foot5 · 10/06/2010 17:03

Can I be a dissenting voice here?

He says in his text that he likes putting them together. I can understand that a bit because assembling flat packed furniture is a bit like putting together a model from a kit and that can be quite fun - if you are in to that sort of thing.

Just because he has been commenting on how much work it is doesn't mean he wasn't looking forward to it.

Of course his comments about "have you done them right?" are annoying and patronising so he has been a bit of an arse. But maybe that is just because he is disappointed that you have taken some of his fun?

Let him have his fun and do the others.

hatingmyjob · 10/06/2010 17:07

I think my DH would have responded the same way, except he wouldn't have necessarily been arsey with me. The thing is, I am not as capable as him at things like this but that's because he's mister fix anything!

He wouldn't be really upset but he wouldn't be able to say "oh great, thanks for saving me the effort".

He is adorable in most other ways so this I would forgive!

Megatron · 10/06/2010 17:09

DH had a pop at me last week for moving a bookcase myself that I've been asking him to help me with for three years. He was 'just about to do it' apparently. Men can be twats about these things.

Jamieandhismagictorch · 10/06/2010 17:09

5foot - Fair point - but the "arse" bit is in not thinking before he sent the text. That's childish

Jamieandhismagictorch · 10/06/2010 17:12

... and 5 year old boys get upset and lash out when you take away their fun. Not grown men, IMO

nickelbabe · 10/06/2010 17:18

fair point that he said he likes putting them together : but he had been moaning about the prospect of doing it for ages.

ChippingIn · 10/06/2010 21:42

Well, if nothing else, it should teach him not to whine about things he really enjoys doing

borderslass · 10/06/2010 22:02

DH would never say anything like that to me when we where first married he did anything diy, but I got fed up waiting and just get on with it if I need help I just give him a shout. I can't stand male chauvinist pigs.

sunnydelight · 11/06/2010 08:12

I like Gloria Smut's suggestion.

DH made a comment along the lines of "I could have ironed it better" one day after I had ironed his work shirts. That was probably ten years ago and I have never ironed an item of his clothing since

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