Birthday Invites.

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Other thread got my attention. It's my Dc's birthday in a few weeks. He wants one of these party venues. Was thinking of about 12 or 14 kids. Was gong to invite about 5 or 6 boys from his glass and 2 girls (his choice). Have just found out here are only about 12 boys in his class including him. I didn't necessarily want to invite them all but am worried that I either leave out someone who is usually part of the group or someone who thinks they are a 'friend'. Like the other thread, he hasn't been invited to that many parties this year (recall only 2) and felt it himself a few times when he realised he was left out. Why are these things so complicated? WWYD - keep the numbers down or invite all the boys which means the 2 girls who he initially wanted will probably be ditched in favour of some boys he didn't really want? Really don't want to hurt anyones feelings.

I think 6 boys out of 12 is fine.

Actually I think 10 out of 12 is OK but that's just me being bolshie.

I once made DD invite all the girls in her class (she had missed out 2) boy did I regret it. I listen to her now

Clary, that's kind of what I was worried about. Hate to miss out 1 or 2 kids by mistake (woould never leave just 2 out deliberately). Son seems a bit woozy as to who exactly is in his class!! At his old school we were issued with class lists with names, telephone numbers etc which made it easier to arrange things quietly.

I'd probably invite them all, including the two girls. But- then I'd worry that all the other girls will wonder why all the boys were invited, but not all the girls. And you clearly can't invite the whole class, so maybe it's best to stick with original plan and literally just invite who your DS wants.

Sorry, I didn't help much!

Thanks anyway. Looks like he's already blabbed to classmates about it - oh the joys!

we always invite the whole class, its not nice to be left out..

I find the Yes rate is typically about 65%. So I would invite all the boys and the 2 girls, and when the dust settles you'll probably have no more than 14 attending anyway.

Mind you, I have probably totally screwed up . I let DS say who to invite which was about 16 boys and 2 girls in the end. Only belatedly did I wonder about how many boys left out.

Problem is the cost at £8.50/head each child extra is a big deal and I didn't have a list of all the boys, so had to rely on DS's memory -- oh, and then I lost the list of who we had invited (thankfully have not lost the RSVP yes list). So it's now impossible to know whom we neglected to invite.

Yes, I can't rely on his memory, that's why I wish they issued class lists. The Cost pp is £14 so I can't realy invite the whole class. As I said, sometimes he's not been invited but it might have been that only a few were invited and it was a small celebration. Might invite all the boys, hoping as said earlier that some might not come. Or tell him he can only ask 5 boys so it'snot just a few who aren't invited.

I don't understand your Maths. You said that you were thinking of inviting 12 or 14 kids. So with 12 boys in the class, including him, plus two girls - where is the problem?

Because some of that number are friends/siblings from out of school.

As Clary said, 5 or 6 boys out of 12 in the class is fine. Yes someone might feel left out but at least they won't be the only one left out.

And the 2 girls your son has chosen should definitely take priority over boys he hasn't!
otherwise the 2 girls may think they haven't been invited because they are girls (which in a way will be true).

Go with his original list.