To house train a husband...impossible!

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Why is he so unhelpful, messy, dis-organised...his brain cant cope with 'tidy as you go' and 'put that in a safe place'.

Whys does he think its not his job to put a plate in the dishwasher?

I cant say 'sod it' cos nothing would get done. He works hard, long hours, I'm a p/t SAHM.

I need help from the house training police to beat some sence into him. A beating with the woman's weekly wouldnt go amiss!!!

Persistence! Keep at it- one thing at a time...Only thing my dh won't do these days is ironing I don't want to be like MIL who has been a martyr to the housework since her wedding day. I grew up in a house when my parents shared everything and when mum buggered off, dad did everything himself. Tell him what a fine example he will set to your dcs. Definitely spank him with a Woman's Weekly

Get him to take a few days off work, then you go away for 2/3 days and leave him with kids and house to look after. He'll soon see that the house doesn't clean itself and the kids take a lot of looking after.
My dh tells me (SAHM) that he's the money earner and looking after the house and kids is my job as I'm currently not working. I thought I was being clever by telling him that once he's home at weekends, we divide the work 50/50 but he replied that if I was more efficent in the week, there wouldn't be anything to do at the weekend! Men are unbelievable!

luci sounds just like my dh

did he live with his mum before you got him?

If you have sky TV you pin protect all the channels he likes. Then you don't let him watch until he has done his chores

I think some people do not see household tasks that need doing; no idea whether that is down to laziness or obtusity. They need directing. Tell him what you want him to do.

I would say something like: "DH, If I bathe the kids,dry them, pick up the towels off the floor afterwards and hang them back on the rail, clean the bath afterwards and then get them in their pyjamas, can you stack all the dishes in the dishwasher, clean the high chair with the Flash spray and wipe down all the surfaces in the kitchen? Or would you rather I do the dishes/kitchen and you sort out the kids and bathroom"? You are the voice of reason, he cannot refuse and he has it in his head what exactly needs to be done. Sorted.

Blimey - that's multi tasking - my DH would have switched off after load the word dishwasher and then he'd be flicking onto Dave for top gear re-runs!