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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to find my lo had another baby's dummy in at nursery?

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EvieBear · 09/06/2010 18:17

Hmm, picked up my 11 month old at nursery and she had another baby's dummy in her mouth.

I'm assuming she picked it up and put it in her mouth herself, but shouldn't the staff be on the floor watching the babies and saying 'that's not your dummy' etc....

I find it gross!

PS This is on top of her bottle being mixed up with another baby's a couple of weeks ago.......

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thederkinsdame · 09/06/2010 21:20

Sorry, I do think you are being a bit U, unless you have other concerns like Balloonslayer said. It's no different to them slobbering over a toy then another kid picking it up and doing the same.

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EvieBear · 09/06/2010 21:39

Okey doke, message received loud and clear!!

A friend had mentioned the allergies issue, luckily DD doesn't have any known allergies, however I'd hate to think she was fed a bottle of someone's breast milk (re the bottle mix ups! YUK!!

After lots of thought, I think me being unreasonable actually has more to do with the staff's attitudes or lack of interest generally...

I didn't complain about it to anyone, I am aware it'll happen I guess. However I did complain when they told me they didn't have her bottle as it had gone home with another baby and had been mixed up!!!!!!!! I don't think that is unreasonable at all.

Cheers

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isthatporridgeinyourhair · 09/06/2010 22:42

It seems to me that you are worried about a bit more than some dummy swapping. The lack of interest would worry me much, much more tbh.

eskimomama · 10/06/2010 09:24

Totally agree with BalloonSlayer - same situation here, I'm so annoyed with people neglecting/ignoring the dangers of allergies and calling you precious - and jeez the nurseries are expensive enough (at least the ones in my area), that you'd expect them to do better than that!

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EvieBear · 10/06/2010 10:16

Yes eskimomama - for the price we pay per month, you expect them to be way more organised. Mixing up bottles is so wrong.

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cupofcoffee · 10/06/2010 10:18

I started to mark ds' dummy with marker pen but they will swap and I would not complain about this. The bottle thing would make me feel uncomfortable though. Allergies could be a problem for some. I would not like it if my child was given someone elses breastmilk (because I would not know if the person it had come from carried any serious infections).

booyhoo · 10/06/2010 10:21

OP does your child crawl or even touch the floor? does she then suck her fingers? do you live in a completely sterile bubble?

YABU and very PFB

chaostrulyreigns · 10/06/2010 10:23

I'm think YUK is a pretty harsh reaction about the breast milk actually, Evie.

booyhoo · 10/06/2010 10:25

you think breastmilk is "YUK" evie? Oh dear.

porcamiseria · 10/06/2010 10:26

yabu! chill out!

cupofcoffee · 10/06/2010 11:52

I can relate to Evie's reaction re the milk mix up though. OK I would not have thought to use the term 'YUK' but I would not be happy if this situation happened involving my dc. There is nothing 'YUK' about breastmilk in general and I would not have a problem with my dd being given breastmilk from say my SIL who I know and so I am aware that she is not a high infection risk. From a woman unknown to me though I think I would worry. I know the risk of such infections is low but there is a (albeit small) potential health risk involved. Also, as it would not have been me who prepared the bottle how would I know if it had been made and stored in a hygienic way - this would apply to both breastmilk and formula.

gagamama · 10/06/2010 12:17

You can buy dummy clips if you're worried about dummy mix-ups. The milk issue is worrying though, I would not be happy if my baby had been fed another child's milk.

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EvieBear · 10/06/2010 12:47

Chill out all the ppl overly concerned at the use of the word YUK! You're so funny - course BM isn't yuk, the thought of my lo drinking another mother's BM is yuk, ya don't reckon????? No, maybe not.... It takes all sorts and if you you don't mind the thought of your LO's drinking someone else's BM that's fine by me, I won't judge you!

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 10/06/2010 21:41

Donated breast milk is given to premature babies. I think it's a very good idea.

Historically, wealthy women would hire a wet nurse to feed their babies.

We give babies milk from cows! Why not milk from other human beings? If you think of it like that - How is milk from the tits of a cow any different (less 'yuk' )from (than? to? - unsure of proper grammar ) milk from a human?

cory · 10/06/2010 22:11

My dd had donated breastmilk when newborn, she was not prem but finding it difficult to suckle. I later donated to the bank myself. Never occurred to me that anyone might think of this as yuk.

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EvieBear · 10/06/2010 22:24

I'm sure it was tested for diseases and that measures were taken to ensure it was suitable for the baby receiving it!

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booyhoo · 11/06/2010 10:59

my milk wasn't tested before i fed ds. i dont know many mothers that get their milk tested before they feed their dcs.

eskimomama · 11/06/2010 15:52

I'm with Evie here, chill out ladies!
Like it's been said above, what can be yucky is you don't know how it's been stored/what the mother ate/drank/the medicines she took etc etc...
Don't make yourselves sound like BF puritans...
(and I'm still EBF my DD at 8 months, so don't think I'm against BF in any way)

weddingseason · 11/06/2010 16:26

Am also with Evie on both counts here. Happy for my child to eat dirt etc. at home but like to think if someone is being paid to watch him they'll be more on the ball or at least apologetic about it.

cupofcoffee · 12/06/2010 11:32

booyhoo my milk wasn't tested before i fed my dcs either but what I mean is that I chose to have the antenatal tests for HIV etc and also that I know my lifestyle does not put me at high risk of such infections. If dc was given milk of another person unknown to me how would I know if they had been tested for such things and if they were high risk (drug user for example). I don't know much about breast milk banks but would assume that they would not take milk from someone who is known to have or high risk for HIV/hepatitis etc?

OK so HIV is not massively common in UK and many people would have chosen to be screened so a milk mix up would not be the most worrying thing to happen to my dcs by a long way off. But my point is that the nursery could be rightly challenged over such an issue as there is potential for health issues here (including the previous mention allergy and unkown preparation and storage of the milk).

cookielove · 12/06/2010 11:43

This is back to the original post, the bottle mix up, did the nursery confirm that she had been given the wrong bottle to drink from or was it just at the end of the day the empty bottles went home to the wrong parents?

Are your bottles clearly labeled, all parts?

Working in a nursery, when i washed up the bottles, i would line up the bottle, teat and teat holder in a line on the draining board, so not to mix them up.

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