to feel a bit guilty

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ok so I am about 4-5 weeks PG and I am sick, relentlessly, when I get home at night after being at work all day (luckily I sit near the loo, my morning sickness is relentless), there is laundry to do and dinner to cook, but I cant bring myself to do them at the moment, I just feel too tired and poorly so DH is doing his best doing a bit of laundry and even emptying/disinfecting my sickbucket (gross I know) but I feel so guilty that I cant even make his dinner for him.

Time for DH to do more then if you are both working....it won't last forever...it is not unreasonable for him to do the chores for a while.

Don't feel guilty, although I suppose its natural.

I remember all too well the horrible debilitating morning sickness I suffered in early pregnancy, and I really do pity you.

Just try the usual stuff - morning sickness bands, dry crackers, ginger biscuits etc.

Don't worry about not cooking dinners for your DH - having to take charge of the cooking will do him good, and he may even enjoy being the one to do all the 'taking care' of you, rather than it being the other way round.

Just keep telling your DH how grateful you are for all his help while you are feeling so grotty, and don't add guilt to the list of things you are currently suffering from, this is something outside of your control and you can't help it.

Hope you start feeling better soon.

Why do you feel guilty for not cooking him dinner? Does he feel guilty he doesn't cook you dinner?

Congratulations and sympathies with the sickness. I threw up several times a day for 8 months. Eat little and often, suck sweets and try to rest up.

Oh I sympathise so much! My first pregnancy knocked me off my feet completely with relentless sickness. Don't feel guilty, you can't help it and it won't last forever. I remember people being amazed at how 'fresh' and 'energised' I was immediately after labour -it was because I wasn't being sick anymore! Hope it goes away soon.

I was exactly the same, was used to doing all the housework and cooking, but when I fell pg it was enough just to keep up with my full time job! it meant a few more takeaways and DH doing the odd bit of washing up, I'm 20wks now and DH still helps out as even though I never had sickness I'm always tired. Don't feel guilty you need your strength!

Don't feel guilty at all. You need to take it easy. Really hope you feel better soon- it's horrible!

No way, he should do all the housework for nine months after what he's done to you

Congrats, and it will get better

YABU - stop feeling guilty.

Turn it the other way round - imagine he has an illness and feels tired and unwell. Would you:

a) be upset that he wasn't making you dinner or doing the chores and wanting him to feel very guilty for not doing so

or

b) feel lots of sympathy and want to make him feel comfortable and looked after?

Add to that the fact that you are ill because you are incubating and feeding and caring for his child and you have your answer.

You know YABU. Now go easy on yourself.

Don't feel guilty, as my DH said when I complained I wasn't doing my bit "but you're building a baby". Let him look after you. If it's any comfort my morning sickness was at its worst weeks 5-7 and then eased enough for me to function alot better. Congratulations on your pregnancy!