to think that noone ever takes the advice anyway....

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When someone thinks they are BU/NBU would it be such a great leap to think that even if 99% of posters say they are BU to call the sky pink, they'll still do it anyway?

Or is anyone prepared to tell us something they did differently on the strength of feeling on AIBU.

So am I BU to think noone takes the advice?

i posted about asking for donations on my wedding invitations... now i'm not... i'm going to speak to grandparents/close family instead ....

I posted with a rant about my dh doing an ironman. I got told not to be so silly, so I stopped ranting and started being a bit more supportive. And actually, in retospect the advice was sound (even though I wasn't wholly convinced at the time). My dh was completely delighted by the MN jury coming out on his side.

Most don't want advice, they want validation and get most indignant when they don't get it

I have been told AIBU loads of times and take the advice.
Sometimes not.

But I love AIBU

Well AIBU is a bit different to the other parts of the forum but I have found that often when asking for advice, what you actually get back are opinions (and many not v helpful at that!)

In AIBU people really are asking for opinions so I guess whether they follow it or not is up to them

I'd only post on AIBU if I genuinely wasn't sure whether I was BU or not and wanted a sense check. So yes, I think I'd take the advice.

Luckily I always know I am being reasonable and so have never had to post on AIBU.

Wow.....okay so IABU!!!

I recon lots of people do take on board they could be being unreasonable (esp if they get flamed into it!).

But I always see advice as nice to get, but it's up to the person whether they take it or not.

I don't think anyone should feel obliged to change the way they see something just because the tide of opinion is against them. It could be seen as being stubbon, but then it could just as easily be seen as having a strong character and courage of their convictions.

The biggest downfall I see on AIBU is an OP who gets uppity at any posts that don't agree with her, it's then I start to feel sorry for them. I want to give one OP a hug on another thread, but it's got a bit out of hand and I'd probably get a verbal punching.

reminds me of a saying my friend once told me: "advice is what you ask for when you already know the truth"

I have put relationship stuff on here and taken the advice (been told IWBU) and also I asked whether I should give a 13yo a certain book and was told no way. (although her mum gave it to her to read anyway so in fact MN war wrong and i was right!)