GRRR please help me stay calm and rational

[DalbySun]

Just had a phonecall from DS's school. He was injured in an unprovoked attack by another student. The word she used was "headbutted".

He's 11 and has had trouble on and off from a small number of shits kids for years. He normally shrugs it off, accepts that he's different and may attract arseholes but to headbutt him???

School assures me its been dealt with. They obviously didn't tell me who'd done it but DS will when he gets home and if its the same little bastard that has been at him all year, I'm going to find it very hard to be rational/sensible/mature etc etc.

What would you do/react etc to stuff like this?

(and yes I did call a child bad names, I really don't give a shit about any PC bullcrap, he's 11, he knows what he's doing).

I am not saying that this child should be let off with it, or that the parent should not contact the police. I was just saying its easy to think little shit or that the parent is bad but that is not always the case and that sometimes we are all quick to judge.

In your case herbietea obviously that is extremely serious and the police should be involved.

I do think in my sons case the parent went a bit far child had no marks it was a one off incident. However i was happy for police to talk to him and he has done nothing like that since.
I was more annoyed with the schools reaction who where very snobby and said parents at this school will not except this behaviour. As if i would except this behaviour either.

I thought like this and told my son to fight back against bullies who were assaulting him. he managed to get the better of one of them and told him to leave him alone. unfortunately the boys then went off and got others to come and bundle him to the ground in a gang and kick him in the face. Not always the best approach. I am considering involving the police for this as it was a serious assault but my son is worried he will get into trouble for fighting back.

I thought like this and told my son to fight back against bullies who were assaulting him. he managed to get the better of one of them and told him to leave him alone. unfortunately the boys then went off and got others to come and bundle him to the ground in a gang and kick him in the face. Not always the best approach. I am considering involving the police for this as it was a serious assault but my son is worried he will get into trouble for fighting back.

Blue this is an old thresd.. maybe you need to start a new one for your poor ds! :(

Press charges. Show the little shit that you mean business. I would not be able to let someone headbutt my child and get away with just getting suspended. He's probably having a lovely week off. Ruin it for him with a little visit from PC Plod.

Hope your DS is ok :(

oops didn't notice how old this thread was

If the same kid/s have been bullying your DS for some while and have now headbutted him I would call in the Police and urge you to do the same.

Been there, watched DD get bullied, listened to the school's assurances that it's being dealt with, seen DD injured, sleepless, throwing up in fear, school refusing... you DO NOT want it to get that far and school are, if it's the same kid, patently NOT dealing with it.

The Police MAY try to tell you that this is a school issue and can only be dealt with in house. This is bullshit, it's a criminal offence - a directive from central government a few (maybe 4 or 5?) years back tried to get the police to deal with violent crime in school only where the school wasn't seen to be acting but IMHO and IME this is only a political move to cover up the amount of bullying that goes on in schools. It is NOT law and you CAN and imho should press for police action.

Rollocks, I didn't notice how old the thread was either.

LOL at rollocks

well done for staying calm, if it was me i would follow the little git home and have a go at his parents.

If its the same child then i would call the police, it will scare the little git to death and hopefully he'l think twice before lifting his hands again.