to think my friends were a little selfish

[TheFruitWhisperer]

10 or so of my friends are booking a holiday at a time when I cant come along as I will be too pregnant to fly.

I dont mind this, DP and I are going away ahead of them alone anyway as our last holiday before we are a family.

However I was invited over to watch BGT with them all last week, and despite it starting at 7.30, we didnt watch it until 10pm as they were on the internet for 2.5 HOURS looking at holiday villa's, discussing them in great detail, calculating expenses, phoning round to see who could come.

I joined in for the first hour and a half but pregnancy rage took over after that and I couldnt help but feel they could have discussed this another time. Esp as I was there on the pretense of watching BGT!

AIBU? Im willing to accept I might be, just wanted some thoughts!

no yanbu that's just rude.

I suppose it was easy for them to get sucked into looking at where they wanted to go, and the time does fly when you're doing that.

It was perhaps a bit insensitive for nobody to notice you were silently fuming, but they could have just been so absorbed in what they were doing they missed it.

Do they all get together often? If they don't they probably just wanted to get it sorted?

I'd put it down to pregnancy hormones, even if it wasn't Defo not worth going over and over in your mind.

You'll have the better holiday anyway, no hangovers

Sorry, I should add - this is not just about me not getting to watch BGT on time. Im not that trivial!

Its about the 2.5 hours of my saturday night wasted! If Id known holiday talk was on the agenda, I might have said no to going over!

They get together every other day...

i cant blame you for peing pissed off, i would be too. were all the 10 people there? if so then i am not surprised talk turned to holiday plans as they are obviously going to be excited about it and all of them were tehre to make decisions. but i agree, it would annoy me too.

Not all 10, just the main group of friends of about 5.

They meet far more regularly than me, now that Im pregnant.

I think YABU really. If ten people soon to go on holiday together are in a room, you can hardly moan that the main topic of convo is the holiday.

If somebody invited me over to watch BGT (or a programme I like) I'd naturally assume that the BGT part was going to be very much the background and not the main event, or else we'd all just stay at home and watch it in solitude.

Aw, OP try not to let it get you down too much. I'd be annoyed too, this was thoughtless... but maybe you're all going in slightly different directions now? Rather than being too put out, maybe look to meet with other women who are in a more similar mindset to you, then it won't matter so much. It sounds like they're leaving you out a bit.

Not all 10 were there Zapp, and we do have big nights in for BGT and X Factor etc, so we can watch them together.

So the show is the main event.

Is it possible Fruit that you're feeling a bit left out generally?

YAB a bit U, you are pregnant - you;ve made your choice they have made theirs. No-one is stopping you do anything, you are pregnant.

I know I sound like a cow harsh, I don't mean to be, your life is changing and you need to adapt to that, your friends (single) lives are carrying on as usual - thatcan be hardsometimes especially if it makes you feel left behind/excluded.

Just promise me you won't turn in to the whining cow lady with issues I work with who 7 years(Yes, 7)is still moaning about how having children ruins yourlife

if you were invited for a bgt evening then it should be safe to assume that you would all watch the programme ,and then comment on the acts while eating loads of rubbish! I think maybe they are excited about a group holiday and got a bit carried away, but it was thoughtless of them , we are going to a bbq this sat to watch the footie, I can't imagine the lads watching it on catch up later while doing other stuff instead try not to dwell on it

Haha! Some already have children who are going along, so its not really a singles holiday. And I certainly dont think having children ruins your life.

I dont actually care that they are going away, it was more about the 'come over for BGT!' saturday night turning into 'This is exclusively about the holiday' saturday night.

And when we did watch BGT, the remote holder fast forwarded most of it to get back to holiday talk

I think the most unreasonable thing about your post is the fact you got together to watch BGT

YANBU, you were there for a reason. They were rude. And other people's holiday plans are like other people's dreams; dull as.

Not selfish of them imo.

You're all friends, the main topic of conversation this time happened to be about something you aren't a part of - but you are one person. And you get together to spend time in each others company...which you did.

Assuming they didn't ignore you or make you feel unwelcome then I dont see the problem at all.

I think if, as you say, they see each other quite regularly then they could have discussed this some other time and YANBU. If they saw each other only once a week or so, then YABU.

And if the whole idea of going there was to watch BGT and they bumped it off to talk holidays then thats actually quite rude of them.

YANBU
They should have been more considerate. I would have left sooner if it was me.