MIL has lost every child she has been charged with including her own and braggs about it. One of her ds was in a newspaper. I have seen her looking after SIL's Ds when he was 3 and she walked into Tesco let go of his hands and let him run off I was sweating buckets he was missing for 20 minutes before she even started to help me look for him. By which time I had alerted staff and we were on the security camera's and everything.
MIL is also a alcoholic and again thinks it is funny boasts about how she drinks a bottle of tesco value vodka a night. When I had ds I said MIL could come in straight after the birth she knew I was in labor but turned up drunk after chucking down 10 coffees and DRIVING to the hospital. All the photos she took are blurred and shaky. (She admitted this to my mum)
Thirdly she does not respect my wishes when dd was born I specifically stated no one was to give ds a row. MIL normally will tell him off which I hate but because I had asked her not to she went out of her way to shout at ds firstly shouting' Don't run around you are going to make mummy really poorly if you do that she has just had a baby you know'
Then when I was home ds was trying to talk to her and she screamed 'get the fuck outta my face I want to see the new baby'
Dp had popped out for something (cant remember what) so it was only her and me So I stood up up and shouted 'you evil old bastard hag get the fuck out of my house right now' . I know I should not have spoke like that in front of my dc but something snapped and I lost my temper.
I also have given her two chances when she is in a good mood I let her have ds in tescos while dp was looking around at something else she lost ds in 5 minutes and when dp retrieved him she grabbed his wrist and yanked it hard, which caused a huge row between them.
Secondly I was talking to SIL while heavily pg on dd ds was running round I went to go back in the house with him when MIL offered after 5minutes she got bored and came back in the garden. So I waited 5 minutes not to seem obvious went in and checked ds was outside (she had left the door open for some air) at the end of the street about to go onto a main road .
Now MIL currently does not look after ds and is not speaking to us because of it and SIL is very angry about it and accused us of calling her a bad mum because she leaves her two ds with her. Would you let MIL look after ds I don't and to be honest never will. But the events above except for the losing of kids and alcohol (which is evening only) are rare occurrences but they do happen AIBU what do you think?